“Who Steals From A Deceased Child?”: Grieving Mom Says Her Manager Collected Donations For Her But Kept It All

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Mother and Reddit user u/throwawaymom-65 has gone through a devastating tragedy — her daughter has died.

But instead of trying to support the woman, her manager decided to contribute to her unbearable pain.

Upon her return to the office, she learned that the low-life went around collecting donations from everyone and then pocketed the money and left the company.

“Who steals from a deceased child?” the mom asked in her post on r/antiwork, where she explained what happened.

After this woman lost her daughter, her coworkers put together a grievance fund

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But her manager took all the money and quit

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It’s hard to know for certain the exact reason behind the manager’s behavior, but according to lawyer Vince Scopelliti, who holds degrees in law and psychology and has more than 27 years of experience working within and managing investigations, some of the most common motivations for commiting fraud are:

Financial pressure. A person might commit fraud due to their own money problems. This can be a result of unfortunate circumstances, such as in the case of a relationship breakdown, or more strongly self-inflicted, from living a lavish lifestyle beyond their means or getting into serious gambling debt.
Peer pressure. A person might be pressured to collaborate in a fraud at work, and go along with it to be accepted in the ‘in group’ or to avoid harassment.
Personality traits. Certain personality types may be more inclined towards committing fraud – such as opportunists, narcissists, or people who like to lord it over or manipulate other people, and who enjoy the challenge of beating the system and fooling others.
Disgruntlement. In some cases, resentment can be involved – such as where an employee feels overlooked for a promotion or pay increase they feel they deserved, or where they feel victimised or treated unfairly (whether real or imagined).

Scopelliti said rationalisation can also play a part, with a perpetrator justifying their actions to alleviate guilt, tellingg themselves things like “I deserve it.”