As much as we want the holidays to bring our family together, they can also expose the tensions that we’re constantly trying to avoid. This time, however, Reddit user Lonely-Breath-8819 said she got into a fight with her sister-in-law before the festivities even began.
The woman decided to host Christmas dinner after her mother stepped back, but she wasn’t willing to accommodate her brother’s wife’s dietary restrictions, and the two of them couldn’t find a way to settle their differences.
Hosting the family dinner is no small feat
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Especially when people need meals prepared just for them
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Relatives need to be willing to compromise if they want the holidays to run smoothly
Allergist Pramod Kelkar, MD, says that during this time of the year, family members who end up hosting everyone shouldn’t be expected to remember everyone’s dietary restrictions.
“Lives get hectic over the holidays so a food allergy previously known may be forgotten or a new chef may be trying a recipe,” Kelkar explains.
“Before you start that ‘who’s bringing what’ email thread or group text chat, ask the question, ‘are there any allergies we all should know about?’ Bottom line: don’t expect everyone to remember allergies.”
Plus, if the host is planning ahead and finds the preparation becoming overwhelming, experts at the University of Michigan’s academic medical center say it’s perfectly reasonable to ask guests to bring their own meals.
“Though it requires extra effort for the guest, this is often the safest route,” they add.
However, the fact that our Redditor’s sister-in-law wasn’t willing to compromise speaks volumes about her approach to family gatherings. After all, nowadays, many bakeries and specialty stores offer allergy-friendly, ready-made dishes, suggesting that her insistence may indeed be less about safety and more about control.
This story is a clear example of why two in five people say being in a committed relationship has made the holidays more complicated, while one in three dread planning how they’ll split time with extended family.
Nearly one in four respondents (23%) say they feel guilty or pressured about holiday plans, and 31% report changing those plans at the last minute to accommodate one side of the family.
For some, the stress simply isn’t worth it: 39% say they’ve skipped holiday gatherings altogether to avoid complicated or tense family situations.
As the woman’s story went viral, she shared more information on the disagreement
Most people didn’t blame her for what happened
Some, however, thought that everyone could show a little more empathy
And a few even said the host was the problem
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