One of the challenges stepparents may face is finding their place in the child’s life. The worst way to go about it is to try to forcibly insert themselves by trying to erase the biological parent from the picture, something that still unfortunately happens.
This pushy stepmom is an example, and she even went through elaborate methods to make her stepdaughter forget about her late mom. Her actions drew the ire of everyone around the child, as they stepped in to give the woman the reality check she very much deserved.
This is quite a long read, but an enjoyable one, thanks to its satisfying outcome.
Some stepparents try to force themselves into the child’s life
Image credits: Renjith Tomy Pkm/Pexels (not the actual photo)
This was what a stepmom did with a teenage child, and it was worsened by the husband, who allowed it all to happen
Image credits: RDNE Stock project/Pexels (not the actual photo)
The stepmom’s jealousy only worsened over time
Image credits: cottonbro studio/Pexels (not the actual photo)
Worse, the husband played a part in deceiving the child
Image credits: Pixabay/Pexels (not the actual photo)
Things eventually reached a boiling point
Image credits: Karolina Grabowska www.kaboompics.com/Pexels (not the actual photo)
The child was also hurt upon learning what happened and decided to distance herself from her father
Image credits: Alexander Mass/Pexels (not the actual photo)
The drama spilled over to the man and woman’s wedding day
Image credits: cottonbro studio/Pexels (not the actual photo)
The stepmom, however, remained oblivious to the damage she caused
Image credits: SHVETS production/Pexels (not the actual photo)
The child’s grandmother also took action to ensure she was taken care of
Image credits: George Milton/Pexels (not the actual photo)
While she did decide to keep contact with her father and stepmom, the child ended up living a fruitful life
Image credits: Burneraccount-909876
Insecurities and divided loyalties are common issues in blended families
Blended families are complicated from the get-go because they are a product of a broken union. There will be divided loyalties, particularly among the children.
In the story, Ella was clearly distraught over her mother’s passing and remained loyal to her, which her stepmother, Clarissa, found unsettling.
“Change brings up feelings of discomfort and manifests differently in every child,” licensed marriage and family therapist Claudia de Llano told Verywell Mind.
However, Clarissa’s insecurities are also valid. According to Naja Hall, an educator who specializes in helping families through life transitions, no woman has step-motherhood on her list of personal goals, which means she is forced to adapt.
“A woman becomes a stepmom because the original family came apart. Our roles are born out of loss,” Hall told Forbes. “But what was once broken can be rebuilt and made new, and a good stepmom is a reminder of that.”
Of course, it does not give Clarissa the right to forcibly insert herself into the picture by erasing Ella’s mom from her life. It’s why experts advise stepparents to take things slow because building trust requires time and patience.
“It’s important to validate, respect, and support the children’s feelings by establishing open communication, mutual trust, and an atmosphere of love,” licensed therapist Samantha Quigneaux told Verywell Mind in the same interview.
Clarissa received what was coming to her in the form of a harsh reality check from her mother-in-law. Credit also goes to Ella for trying to keep the relationship with her father and stepmom, even after they tried to ruin her life.
People in the comments were delighted by how the story ended
from Bored Panda https://ift.tt/QCz2fbR
via IFTTT source site : boredpanda
