Work as well as family life pose certain challenges. It’s in no way a surprise, especially for working parents out there, trying their best at covering both. But can one be easier than the other? The question remains a highly debatable one.
Sarah Torresan, founder of the ‘Imperfect Alignment’, sparked a discussion online after saying that going to work is much easier than staying at home with the kids when you’re sleep deprived. The Melbourne-based mom explained why she felt this way in her TikTok video, which has been viewed nearly 90 thousand times already. Scroll down to find the video below.
This mom turns to TikTok to share her views on working vs. staying at home with the kids when sleep deprived
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The woman says she has both, stay-at-home and working days, which she compared to form her opinion
“I feel like I’m qualified to speak to this because I have both working days and stay-at-home mom days. And I want to tell you something that the working parent probably doesn’t want stay-at-home parents to know. Going to work is so much easier than staying home with kids. And here’s why.”
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She admits that stay-at-home days are more stressful or chaotic than those spent at work
“On my work days, I get to commute to work listening to a podcast or music by myself. I get to grab a coffee, walk through the city. I get to go to the office, have adult conversations with other people, work using parts of my brain that I haven’t used in a long time. Then I get to commute home again, listening to music or podcasts alone. And then I miss my kids and can’t wait to see them, and they can’t wait to see me either.
On the flip side, when you’re at home alone with the kids for days on end, you might go days without having a normal human conversation. From the second you open your eyes in the morning until you close them at night, you are on, you are putting out fires over the most insanely irrational things. It’s constant conflict. It’s constant, everyone else’s needs.”
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In the video, she raises the question of whose sleep should be prioritized—the parent’s who’s off to work in the morning or the one’s who’s staying at home
“You’ll be yelled at for things, it is all about what you need to do for someone else. You barely get a hot coffee, you barely get time to sit down and think about anything else outside of what needs to be done. Most stay-at-home parents would dream of sitting in the car for 45 minutes and listening to a podcast or drinking a hot coffee with a coworker. Of course there’s caveats to this based on what you do for work or what your partner does for work, but my point is overnight, whose sleep should really be prioritized?”
@imperfectalignment If I had a choice between staying at home with the kids or working after a rough night … I would choose a work day EVERY TIME #workingmum #defaultparent #parenting #mumlife #secret #tipsandtricks #fyp ♬ original sound – Sarz
Staying at home might sound like the easier option to some, yet it presents certain challenges as well
Sarah started her video by pointing out that she has both, stay-at-home as well as office days, and comparing the two has led her to believe that the latter one is much easier. As some commenters pointed out, it really depends on the situation, but in her opinion, staying at home means being constantly overwhelmed with things to do. And that’s not easy to bear when you’re tired or sleep-deprived. (As moms and dads often are. A new parent is believed to lose nearly two hours of sleep every night during the first year with the baby.)
According to Pew Research Center, 7% of dads and 28% of moms are stay-at-home parents. Even though being able to spend time with your child is rewarding in so many ways, it can cause feelings of insecurity or loneliness. It might also be physically and emotionally draining because of the sheer number of things they have to take care of around the house.
This is why the TikToker finds the work option easier after a rough night. She admitted that the days spent at home feel chaotic as she spends most of her energy caring for something or someone else. According to Healthy Children, it’s important to find time for self-care; it allows parents to recharge and lead a happy and healthy lifestyle, which positively affects their kids as well.
Whether you choose to stay at home or work from the office, it is important to know how to deal with responsibilities and stress that comes with it
On the way to the office, Sarah can spend time for herself, even if it’s something as minor as listening to a podcast or grabbing a coffee. She also emphasized that it allows her to have a proper grown-up conversation, which is a rare case when staying at home. But even with the perks of going to the office, the majority of parents wouldn’t choose to work from there full-time. FlexJobs revealed that 61% of moms and dads prefer to work remotely, and 37% like to use a hybrid work model.
No matter the model, being a working parent often requires knowing how to manage stress and numerous responsibilities. Having to juggle work and family life encouraged Sarah to start Imperfect Alignment (and the Working Mum Academy), a course that provides guidance for working mothers out there. In another video on TikTok, she opened up about feeling stressed during her second pregnancy, which is why she started looking for help online. She sought courses or programs that could provide information on how to best handle different aspects of life as a working mom, but couldn’t find any. That’s why she decided to find a way to create one herself.
Bored Panda has reached out to Sarah via email, and we’ll update the article once we hear back from her.
People in the comments had differing opinions, some agreed with Sarah
Others disagreed with her completely
There were people saying that it depends on the situation
TikTokers also shared opinions and spoke about their own experiences
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