If you have siblings, it’s possible that they oscillate between being your best friends and your arch nemeses, depending on the day. But even when you’re bickering, you know that there’s a heart full of love behind the insults, and that you would help each other in a heartbeat if you ever needed anything.
But one woman doesn’t seem to understand the close bond that siblings share, as she went out of her way to be cruel to her partner’s sister. Below, you’ll find the full story that her partner recently posted on Reddit, as well as some of the replies that invested readers shared.
This person was happy to give their sister a Switch to reward her great behavior
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But when the device was suddenly destroyed, they knew that their girlfriend was behind it
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A small amount of jealousy in relationships is perfectly normal
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As you’ve probably heard before, a little bit of jealousy in relationships can be perfectly healthy. It would be strange if you didn’t feel a tinge of jealousy when a stranger flirts with your partner in a bar or when you see people commenting on their Instagram photos complimenting their amazing hair. That tiny bit of discomfort means that you care about them and can be a reminder that you don’t want to share them with anyone else.
However, it’s important to know that there is no need to act upon this jealousy. It can be a fleeting thought because you trust your partner, and you know that they’re not actually going to go home with the woman from the bar or start flirting back with their Instagram followers. And a small amount of jealousy certainly isn’t any reason to make your partner feel like they’ve done anything wrong.
As far as where jealousy comes from, VeryWell Mind notes that it may stem from being insecure or having low self-esteem, having a fear of abandonment or betrayal, feeling intensely possessive or desiring control, feeling like you own your partner, having unrealistic expectations about your partner or relationship, worrying about losing something important and more.
But jealousy can quickly spiral out of control when it goes unchecked. It can create resentment in relationships or cause defensiveness between partners. It might also cause intense emotional experiences, which can lead to physical reactions like trembling, dizziness, depression, and trouble sleeping, VeryWell Mind explains.
So how can we learn to manage our jealousy and maintain healthy relationships in spite of it? The Gottman Institute says that it’s important to first recognize what triggers your envy. As hard as it is to remember, feelings aren’t facts. So you need to be able to look at situations honestly and decide if there’s actually any reason to be upset or if your jealousy is blowing things out of proportion in your mind. Acknowledge what’s triggering you, and try to look at the situation logically.
But when it goes unchecked, jealousy can quickly spiral out of control
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Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon also notes that it’s best to work through jealousy with your partner as a team. She says that this can be an opportunity for couples to reflect and work on relational self-awareness. They should have honest conversations about where these feelings are coming from and what both parties can do to put the other at ease.
If you’re struggling with jealousy, Dr. Solomon says it’s important to take responsibility for your feelings. And if your partner is jealous, try not to become defensive and instead consider if there’s anything you can do to help them feel more secure.
VeryWell Mind recommends working towards creating an “atmosphere of trust” with your partner and making sure that your relationship has a healthy level of attachment. If you both feel safe and secure, you’ll be a lot less likely to allow jealousy to overwhelm you. But it’s also important to recognize when jealousy has gone past the point of being normal and when it becomes unhealthy.
It’s a huge red flag if your partner tries to use jealousy to control your actions, keep an eye on your every move or make outlandish accusations against you. If you feel like your partner’s envy has started to make you feel unsafe, do not hesitate to remove yourself from the situation and get help.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Do you think this person made the right decision by kicking out their girlfriend? Feel free to weigh in, and then, if you’d like to read another Bored Panda article discussing similar issues, we recommend this one!
Readers were supportive of the author, and they joined in on the conversation to provide more details about the situation
The majority agreed that the author made the right choice, and many pointed out that this relationship has no future
However, some didn’t like how the author handled the situation
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