Families can be super complicated, especially when the parents themselves are so toxic that they shamelessly play favorites, while neglecting the other child. Setting up boundaries, or even cutting them off for good, is very important, or it can truly traumatize a person for life.
Even this ignored daughter finally reached her breaking point after the “golden” daughter flirted with her fiancé and told him he would be better off without her. He was horrified as their parents just watched, so he asked his fiancée to go no-contact with them. Here’s all the drama that followed when she did!
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It’s sad how some people never get to bond properly with their siblings, all because of toxic parenting
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Growing up, the poster faced blatant favoritism as her elder sister was the golden child who made her life hell, but never got berated by their parents
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Despite all this toxicity, the poster tried everything to form a bond with them to no avail, and the favoritism continued into adulthood as well
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However, the final straw was when her sister flirted with her fiancé and told him that he would be better off without the poster, while their parents just watched
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She took her fiancé’s advice and went no-contact with all of them, but they acted dramatically and accused her of cutting them off from her wedding
Today, we dive into the life of the original poster (OP) as she narrates her trauma because of her toxic family. While growing up, her elder sister was the golden child, but she was completely neglected. Moreover, her sister bullied her a lot, but never got berated over it, as their parents would just let everything slide that their favored daughter did.
Things were so bad that the couple would believe every lie that she told them about OP. Even when they witnessed that the elder one did something, they would still yell at the poster if she was blamed. After growing up, things didn’t change; rather, her sister got nastier and tried everything to ruin our lady’s life, and again, the parents said nothing.
When the poster announced her engagement, she didn’t get wishes from either of the three. However, when her fiancé met her family, it was the last straw for OP. Not only did her sister flirt with the guy, but she also told him that he would be better off without the poster. As their parents didn’t say anything, he expressed his anger, and the couple left.
The good thing was that her fiancé opened the poster’s eyes that no matter how hard she tried to bond with them, they would never change. Upon his advice, she finally decided to go no-contact with them and sent them a last message. However, this annoyed them so much that they accused her of banning them from her wedding and even made fake victim posts on social media.
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After OP vented online, netizens instantly sided with her and claimed that she should have cut them off a long time ago. Studies show that parental favoritism occurs in up to 65% of families. While its impact can be devastating, experts stress that it can lead to anxiety, depression, unstable or even traumatic reactions in personal relationships, and performance anxiety.
Moreover, research also emphasizes that this favoritism sparks a poor sibling relationship, often leading to an intense rivalry. Also, the favored child may develop a sense of entitlement and may feel exempt from the rules, affecting their ability to sustain mature romantic relationships. It seems like the toxic parents are ruining the lives of both their adult children.
It’s really sad to think about how alone the poor poster must have felt while growing up, as her sister bullied her, while the adults who are supposed to be responsible turned a blind eye. It has been observed that sibling bullying can have devastating long-term effects on the victim, like mental health struggles, trust issues, low self-esteem, and even unresolved anger.
OP really is a fighter, as she grew up so well despite coming from a toxic family. Redditors were delighted that at least her fiancé stood up for her in front of the evil people. It seems like going no-contact with such folks is probably the best solution. Don’t you agree? We would love to hear your thoughts, so feel free to put them down in the comments below!
Netizens were shocked by the blatant favoritism, but many applauded the poster for cutting off her toxic family for good
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