Planning a wedding is no small feat. Still, as The Knot’s 2025 annual wedding survey shows, 80% of couples choose to do all the planning themselves. Only 8% said their wedding is being planned by a professional or by other loved ones.
This bride moved up her wedding date to this summer, but refused to do any planning. Her bridal party soon found out what it’s like dealing with a bridezilla, when the woman started being “incredibly picky” and even sent her fiancé to harass the Maid of Honor for not doing a good enough job.
A bride wanted a wedding as soon as possible, but refused to do any planning
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Her sister got fed up and decided to vent about it online
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The couple should clearly communicate what they want for a wedding even if the planner is a friend
Planning a wedding can be stressful. In fact, 52% of couples agree, and 59% say that the process is overwhelming. A wedding planner can take much of that stress away, but it comes with a certain cost.
According to The Knot, the average cost of a wedding planner last year was $2,100. The price depends on what kind of wedding the couple is planning: the location, the services included, and other factors. Still, wedding experts estimate that a wedding planner can cost anywhere from $1,400 to $4,100 and even more.
That’s why the majority of couples try to save up and either plan their weddings themselves or delegate to to family members or friends. Nevertheless, wedding planning experts say that the couple should very clearly communicate to the planners what they want.
As one commenter already pointed out, if the bride has no say in the planning process, the planner is in for a lifetime of criticism and complaining.
Experts don’t recommend asking your friend to plan your wedding
That’s why wedding experts from Bianca Nichole and Co recommend choosing someone other than a family member or friend for the main wedding planner and coordinator. They give four main reasons why it might not work out:
- They won’t enjoy the wedding as a guest. By asking a friend to be your wedding planner, you’re taking away the joy from them of being a wedding guest.
- It might hurt your friendship. Like the bride in this story probably already learned the hard way, the stress of planning a wedding puts a lot of pressure on the planner. A planner needs to please a lot of people: the guests, the family, the fiancé, and the bride. Conflicts are bound to happen, and the friend relationship might suffer in the process.
- They’re inexperienced. Unless you have a wedding planner for a BFF, they might feel out of their depth. “From bobby pins and a Tide-To-Go pen, to snacks and Advil, we are prepared for anything,” the planners at Bianca Nichole and Co write. “We know what time your caterer should arrive for set up, and can help your florist adjust last-minute details.”
- They might lack authority with other guests. This is especially true for parents and grandparents. They might feel like bossing the planner around. Whereas a professional would know how to politely deal with overzealous family members, a friend might be in for some awkward and uncomfortable situations.
12 months in advance is the most optimal time to start planning a wedding
The fact the sister decided to move up the wedding date to this summer is also questionable. Planning a wedding takes time, and if the couple wants more than elopement or a tiny wedding with witnesses only, it’s going to take more than a month.
Wedding planner Nicole-Natassha Goulding told Brides that an average wedding usually takes about 12 months to plan. That way, the couple has time to book a venue, hire vendors, find a wedding dress, and more.
Although Goulding advises her clients to wait at least one month after engagement before starting to plan a wedding, some couples do it even before getting engaged. According to a survey by the wedding registry site Zola, 100% of couples take a major step in their wedding planning process before getting engaged.
Wedding planner Rachel Urban told Vogue that she’s had similar clients. “I feel for current couples, as the wedding world is busier than ever which is causing couples to always feel this sense of being ‘behind’ on wedding planning. I can see why more couples feel the pressure to get started sooner than later.”
“She definitely does want to be married,” the sister insisted in the comments
“This is not normal,” people commented, pointing out the bride should want to be involved
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