“I’m Just Not Equipped”: Guy Questions If He Did The Right Thing Turning To Child Services

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Family is supposed to help each other when the going gets tough. But when you don’t even have each other’s numbers, does that still apply, or are you just strangers who happen to share a last name?

Reddit user UsedFlight adhered to the latter. He was no longer in contact with his sister—until she dropped by unannounced and left her three-year-old on his doorstep. No diapers, and no return time—just a quick explanation that she needed to go to the hospital… and then she disappeared.

This man was estranged from his sister

Child in green hoodie outdoors, representing a child services theme.

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But that didn’t stop her from leaving her son with him

Text discussing dilemma of involving child services due to mental health and babysitting issues.

Child services dilemma text describing a person receiving a child due to mother's health issues.

Text about a child left on a porch, prompting a man to consider contacting child services.

A crying child being comforted by a caregiver outdoors, related to child services.

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Text discussing contacting child services after a relative's child was left in the writer's care.

Text about feeling unequipped for childcare responsibilities and considering child services.

Text questioning decision on involving child services, expressing guilt about letting family down.

Woman appears stressed, touching her hair, reflecting on a decision about child services.

Image credits: Daniel Martinez/Unsplash (not the actual photo)

Text about someone discussing their lack of car seat equipment and contemplating seeking help.

Text about FACS and child services supporting struggling families.

Text of a message regarding a sister's hospital visit and child services involvement.

Young child in striped shirt standing outdoors, related to child services decision.

Image credits: Rameez Remy/Unsplash (not the actual photo)

Text about turning to child services for help with a child's living arrangements.

Text image expressing frustration about contacting child services and not receiving a response in 8 days.

Image credits: UsedFlight

Quickly after, the man clarified a few things

Text screenshot discussing child services acronym confusion with Australia.

And although the woman’s decision probably wasn’t the best one, she likely made it due to a lack of options

According to the 12th annual Care.com 2025 Cost of Care Report, parents say they’re spending a whopping 22% of their household income on child care, with the average parent depleting 29% of their savings on child care costs alone. The report also shows that:

  • The average weekly nanny cost is $827 (up 8% from $766 in 2023);
  • The average weekly daycare cost is $343 (up 6.9% from $321 in 2023);
  • The average weekly family care center cost is $344 (up 50% from $230 in 2023);
  • And the average weekly babysitter cost is $167 (down 13% from $192 in 2023).

Because of this, most parents seek government support, and 87% highlighted that credits for care expenses are really helpful. In addition, 79% believe employers should help ease the burden by offering subsidized caregiving benefits.

Her brother probably wasn’t the woman’s first option. The study says parents regularly have to find new solutions to get through everyday life for reasons like schedule changes (31%), budget changes (26%), and needing one-time help (18%), and more than half (52%) anticipate it taking two months or more to find the right care solution.

All of this can take a tremendous toll. When asked specifically about the stress outcomes of managing their caregiving responsibilities, 90% of parents report losing sleep, 80% report crying (for moms, this increases to 90%), 75% report feeling a sense of dread, and 71% say they are experiencing health issues. A staggering 29% report they have considered suicide or self-harm. Hopefully, the mom can overcome her hardships.

The replies were split; some said the man did nothing wrong

Reddit comment discussing experiences with CPS and supporting family's decision.

Reddit comment discussing turning to Child Services for help with no experience caring for a child.

Reddit comment discussing involvement with Child Services for toddler care concerns.

Reddit comment discussing challenges of childcare and decision to contact child services.

Reddit comment discussing the necessity of child services for mental health concerns.

Reddit comment discussing child services decision, criticizing lack of preparation when leaving a child unexpectedly.

Reddit comment explaining that turning to child services was the right decision for support.

But some believe he should’ve been more understanding

Reddit post discussing turning to child services for a nephew and the moral implications involved.

Text expressing mixed feelings about a guy turning to child services, highlighting the child's unmet needs.

Reddit comment questioning if a 3-year-old usually needs diapers, sparking a debate on child services.

Comment questioning the decision to turn to child services, mentioning the foster system and family situation.

Reddit comment discussing child services involvement and foster care challenges.

Reddit comment criticizing a decision involving child services and family relationships.

Reddit comment questioning decision to involve Child Services and suggesting alternatives.

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