The reasons why modern-day dating sucks so much are plentiful and a lot of it is, of course, related to dating apps. For once, they are giving us too much choice while at the same time not enough good matches. This leaves many overwhelmed but still starving for meaningful connections.
Then, there are all the problems that are related to texting. Ghosting, quickly losing interest in a conversation, not being able to convey emotion or get into a conversational flow through a screen.
Throw in some instant gratification and an otherwise already hectic schedule and voila— you have just created an awful dating experience. So awful, in fact, that almost 80% of singles report that they are experiencing dating burnout.
If you’re already in that 80%, the list of examples below will only make you feel worse about it. That is why Bored Panda contacted Lilian Czolbe, a relational coach and an author of web series on online dating, to get some tips on how to navigate today’s dating scene.
#1 Jonathan, The Choosiest Of Tinder Beggers
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When it comes to online dating, Czolbe has a few tips on how to make it fun and interesting. First thing’s first: you have to be yourself. “Create a profile that screams ‘you.’ Use recent, unfiltered photos, and write a bio that captures your essence. Honesty is the secret sauce for cooking up meaningful connections.”
She also encourages to prioritize quality over quantity. “Rather than pursuing many connections simultaneously, focus on a few quality interactions. This approach can lead to more meaningful and fulfilling connections.”
She notes that this tactic is might not only lead to deeper connections, but also will be great for your own sanity. “Keeping up with several conversations at the same time is really challenging. You mix up the different people and ask George about the sister he turns out not to have—whoops!”
A few other important things that Czolbe lists is prioritizing safety, keeping a positive attitude, and taking time to take care of your own personal needs and aspirations.
#2 “Not Everything Is About You”
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#3 Girl On Tinder Wants Korean BBQ
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Another big thing is staying open-minded. “Picture this: you’ve got this big circle that represents all your expectations, and you’re trying to fit someone inside. But guess what? It’s like trying to squeeze a watermelon into a lunchbox – it’s just not gonna work.
So, I encourage folks to ditch the rigid checklists. Keep an open mind, and you might find yourself pleasantly surprised by the unique qualities of someone who didn’t tick all your preconceived boxes.”
#4 Found On Tinder, She Sounds Like A Great Catch!
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#5 The Choosing Beggars Of Tinder
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#6 U Pay
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In fact, managing expectations is one of the crucial things when it comes to online dating. “It’s all too easy to conjure up grand fantasies about your potential match. You know, based on those heart-fluttering messages and a carefully curated profile. It’s like writing a movie script in your head, and you’re the star.”
Solution? Meet with your match as soon as possible. “It’s like turning on the lights in a dimly lit room; you’ll get a more accurate view of your potential partner and avoid investing too much emotional energy in an imaginary superstar.”
#7 Ah The Latest And Greatest From Tinder
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#8 My Sister Got This Message From A Dude On Tinder Asking If She Would Overhaul The Branding, Website, And Social Media For A Tech Start Up For Free
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#9 This Cb Is Homeless With Three Kids And Making Demands On A Dating App
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Dating in general requires you to be aware of what we expect from our potential partners. “We’ve all picked up some wonky ideas about love from movies, magazines, and Aunt Jane’s advice at family gatherings. But it’s time to separate the rom-com illusions from reality.”
A good example of that is a partner that does it all. “In today’s complex world, we all play various roles – professional, friend, lover, family member, and more. The expectation that a romantic partner should fulfill every aspect of our lives can be overwhelming. By recognizing the value of diversifying our support systems, we can maintain healthier, well-rounded relationships.”
#10 This Guy Is Looking For A Sweet Submissive “Personal Assistant” On A Dating Site. Rent Is Included. What A Deal Ladies!
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#11 Went On A Date. Said I Was Looking For Something More Serious, No Hookups, And He Left Immediately. A Couple Months Later And I Get This Message
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#12 For The Record, There Wouldn’t Have Been A Date
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So, you have an honest profile, a good attitude, and realistic expectations, and it’s still not working out—you get discouraged by all the rejections. How do you deal with that? Czolbe’s advice is to try and normalize people saying no to you. “Rejection is like that side dish that comes with every dating meal and almost everyone gets a taste at some point.
She notes that Ken Page, the author of Deeper Dating, claims that 90% of people we date aren’t even the right match for us, so we should expect for people to turn us down.
#13 Tint My Windows For Me, It Would Be A Great First Date!
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#14 Trying To Get A $100 Minimum Dinner On A First Date
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#15 Google Search: Highest Paying Jobs
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A great way to deal with rejection is remember that this is not just about you. “It’s often about the other person’s issues or their cryptic texting skills, not your worth. So, we switch the narrative from ‘I must have done something wrong’ to ‘I’m a catch, and they missed out.’ It’s like a self-esteem boost with a sprinkle of empowerment.” For example, if you get ghosted, she encourages people to view it as a reflection of the other person’s inability to communicate, rather than a personal failing.
#16 She Took “Pay To Play” To A New Level
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#17 Guy Went On One Date With A Girl, Waited 3 Months Of No Contact Before Deciding To Pick Out Every Insecurity She Probably Has About Herself. Claims She Hurt His Ego, Then Proceeds To (Kind Of) Ask For A Second Date
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#18 First I Thought Cb Was Cheap. Then I Thought Cb Was Bored. Finally, I Thought Cb Was Desperate. Is The Facebook Marketplace The New Tinder?
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According to Czolbe, self-reflection and self-growth should also be a part of dating life. “Dive into self-development, explore hobbies, and figure out what truly matters to you. Find the activities that feed your identity and independence, and you’ll not only be a more attractive date, but you’ll also enrich your own life in the process.”
#19 At Least She Knows She’s Picky?
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#20 These Are Realistic Standard For Dating On Craigslist
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#21 My Tinder Bio Has Photography Set As My Job
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And while issues related to online dating and the apps is one of the big pain points in the modern-day dating, it is certainly not everything. Czolbe highlights the rise of long-distance relationships as well as the struggles people have with communication in general. For those fed up with it all, she suggests to connect with a professional like her, who can help them navigate the treacherous landscape. “I am still taking clients,” she smiles.
#22 Blunt. Feminist. Liberal
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#23 Tinder Surgarless Sugar-Daddy Wanted
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#24 Dating Apps Are For Getting Paid, Not Getting To Know Each Other
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All in all, dating can be quite challenging, so be brave and have fun. And if you see any choosy beggars on the way to meeting the one, screenshot it so we can put it on the next list like this one and completely forget about their existence—there are plenty of way better fish in the sea.
#25 First One I’ve Run Into On Tinder
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#26 Cb = Choosing Bumbles?
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#27 Taking Tinder Dating To A Whole New Level
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#28 Tinder Is The New U-Haul?
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#29 Im A Few Months Into My Tattoo Apprenticeship.. Apparently I Shouldn’t State My Job On A Dating Site
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#30 Woman From My Old High-School With Two Kids Looking For Dates
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#31 Dead End Dating Profile (F) Asks Me (M) For Ride At 2:07am, I’m Not That Desperate. Til “Goof” Must Be A Powerful Insult
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#32 This Guy Is A Literal Content Gold Mine. I Don’t Think Any Woman Would Want To Date You Buddy
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#33 Tinderbeggar! Lol
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#34 Part Of The Time-Honored Tradition Of Making A Dating Profile That Demands Everything And Provides Nothing
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#35 Pretty Much How Most Tinder Convos Go Now Anyone Under 25 For Me. Wanted A Sugar Daddy
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#36 Found On R/Tinder
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#37 Imagine Thinking You’re Worth Paying To Talk To Lol
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#38 Found On Tinder
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#39 Alright Boys I’m Done With Tinder
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#40 Uhh, Does This Abomination Of A Dating Profile Count?
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