Ask any mother and they will tell you that they would do anything for their children. Even if that means making sacrifices on others’ behalf, when push comes to shove.
Concerned that there isn’t enough room for her baby, a 33-year-old expecting woman decided to see whether her stepdaughter, who’s been living with her and her dad, would be fine living elsewhere. In other words, moving out. When this didn’t work out, sensing that her husband won’t be much help, u/Sharp_Candy_513 took matters into her own hands and tried to talk to her stepdaughter one-on-one, woman-to-woman. Thinking that she’s been misconstrued by everyone, creating an “awkward and uncomfortable” environment in the household ever since, she took to the “Am I The [Jerk]” community to see what the good people of the internet make of this.
When there’s a baby on its way, some mothers naturally expect there to be extra space ready for them
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But when the only available room is already occupied by a stepchild, the situation can become rather uncomfortable
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In this day and age, most adult kids move out later than previous generations due to sky-high inflation
Since the pandemic, the housing market and the world itself have changed significantly. Rent got harder to cover, along with increasing food prices. And when you can study or work from home, it’s only understandable why many will opt to put their independence on hold in order to save some money or pay off student debts. Hence, the 2.9 million young adults in the US, the so-called “boomerang kids”, who went back to living with their parents in the wake of the pandemic – a drastic increase from 8% in 1971 to 17% in the span of 50 years – where nearly two thirds (or 62%) of them say they simply can’t afford to move out.
While everyone will agree that no one can blame young people for being sucker-punched by the economic instability created by the pandemic; some parents are not too happy about it. For one, this can impact parents’ dreams of retirement. According to the Thrivent survey, 35% of American parents who have adult children returning home have made the difficult decision to tap into their savings meant for long-term objectives like retirement or housing. Additionally, 26% of these parents find themselves unable to pay off debts or save for immediate goals due to the financial support they provide to their adult children. Pandemic or not, the return of children into the household disrupts the established routines and encroaches upon the newfound freedoms that parents acquire after their kids move out.
Another issue that this presents is evident in u/Sharp_Candy_513’s parental conundrum. Normally, parents would typically rejoice at the prospect of their adult children leaving the comfort of the “nest” and embracing their newfound independence. This transition not only signifies a significant milestone for the children but also offers psychological benefits for both parents and kids alike, it turns out. As highlighted in a 2018 study conducted by the University of Utah, parents between the ages of 50 and 70, commonly known as “empty-nest” parents, reported being 5-6% more likely to experience a high level of happiness compared to those who still had children residing at home.
But what happens when you have to find a compromise between throwing your now grown-up (step) child overboard, despite the economic situation being completely in the toilet, and sacrificing your own personal space because there’s only so much room in the house?
People did see the author’s point but thought she was being very inconsiderate toward her stepdaughter
On the other hand, many believed that the father could have been more involved in the entire situation
Some, however, sided with the soon-to-be mother and said she’s doing the right thing
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