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It’s not wrong to want something more from life. This desire often drives people to grow, have a successful career, and build an overall better life for themselves. However, when a person expects special treatment just for existing, they are already stepping into the entitlement zone where they put their own needs before anyone else’s, doing a huge disservice to those around them.

Just like these people in the list, whose entitlement went through the roof this month. Scroll down to find the worst instances of selfish people lacking self-awareness, and don’t forget to upvote those that desperately need a reality check.

While you’re at it, make sure to check out a conversation with a mental health counselor and founder of A Braver Space, Gayle Clark, LCSW, and a marriage and family therapist, Dr. Paul Hokemeyer, as well as therapist and owner of Pathways Counseling KC, Laura Bonk, MA, LCPC, LPC, and behavioral relationship expert Tracy Crossley, who kindly agreed to tell us more about entitlement.

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#1 Some People Believe They Are Entitled To More Than They Are

#2 If Only There Were A Sign, Or A Law, Or A Guideline

The dogs-in-grocery-stores problem is getting out of hand. Every time I go (not exaggerating) someone has a dog in their arms, in their cart, in a leash, etc.

#3 Please Stop Doing This If You Vape

It has become the norm for me to find these all over the ground. If your vape runs out of battery for god sakes just toss it in the trash and don’t just toss it on the ground.

“A sense of entitlement shows up when people have a belief that they are somehow inherently deserving of special treatment,” says mental health counselor and founder of A Braver Space, Gayle Clark, LCSW.

Some signs of entitlement that she mentions include:

Lack of empathy—struggling to consider other people’s feelings or perspectives.
Unrealistic expectations—expecting special treatment, even when it’s not earned.
Difficulty accepting “No”—reacting poorly to being denied something and sometimes resorting to anger or manipulation.
Rule-breaking—thinking that rules apply to others but not to oneself.
Complaints—complaining about being poorly treated or victimized and blaming others when things don’t go their way.
Rarely saying thank you—not acknowledging help, sacrifice, or kindness from other people.

#4 Gross Sense Of Entitlement Parking Your Car In A Fire Lane For 1+ Hour

#5 Of All The People To Block My Driveway (And The Entire Lane) And Leave Their Car Unattended

#6 Imaginary 1 Star

Marriage and family therapist Dr. Paul Hokemeyer adds that usually, the most apparent sign of all of them that a person is entitled is being highly demanding.

“They feel like they deserve the best of everything, the best table at a restaurant, the best designer accessories, the highest and most prestigious awards. They demand special treatment. They get incensed if they have to wait in a queue or be a part of the challenges of humanity,” he explains.

“They also are highly emotional and can easily become unhinged and histrionic when they don’t get what they feel they deserve. In my clinical practice, I refer to these clients as having very thin skin. They see nearly everything that even remotely challenges them as a personal affront, and they act out as if they sustained the most egregious insult if their unreasonable and undeserved expectations are unmet.”

#7 It’s A Memorial Dude

#8 Person In The Red Sweatshirt Was Nice Enough To Bring Her Big A*s JBL Speaker To The Gym So Everyone Can Hear Her Music At 110% Volume, Instead Of Just Bringing Headphones Like A Normal Person

#9 Someone Walked To The Trash Enclosure Just To Not Put Their Bags In The Bin

The entitlement mentality can come from a variety of places. The most common one is childhood. “If a child receives everything they want from their parents/caregivers during their childhood and is rarely told “No,” this can cause a sense of entitlement,” says therapist and owner of Pathways Counseling KC, Laura Bonk, MA, LCPC, LPC.

When parents give in to children’s tantrums and don’t teach them to work for what they want, they might start lacking resilience and expect to receive everything they desire in life without any effort.

“Our culture of instant gratification [also] definitely plays a big role in creating entitled individuals and an entitled culture overall,” Bonk adds.

#10 Harassing Employees To Stay Longer At Work Because Of A Sore Throat

#11 Don’t Be These Tourists

All these dickheads are well past the safety lines. They are there for a reason, beyond that, it is disrespectful to come to a place of beauty like Hawaii and be that self entitled. Hawaiians are inviting you and allowing you in to their beautiful territory, Be Pono, not ōpala.

#12 I Won A Jackpot On A Cruise. Now My Brother Wants Me To Give Him “His Fair Share”

Entitlement can also be a characteristic of some diagnosable personality disorders, says Clark, in particular, narcissistic personality disorder.

“It can also be seen in different ways in people with borderline personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, or dependent personality disorder. There are many people who don’t meet the criteria for a diagnosis but may still exhibit narcissistic traits. While it may appear that someone who is entitled thinks highly of themselves, from a mental health perspective, entitlement is often linked to deep-seated insecurity, a fear of rejection, and low self-worth,” she explains.

#13 Have Been Working So Hard To Keep Our Review Score H**h As It Affects Our Standing In Our Company, Gets Left This

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#15 Customer Took The Filling Out Of Every Purse She Looked At, And Brought It All To The Front

I don’t know why people are like this, if you are looking at a purse and they have stuffing in it please put it back. She had it in her cart and I put it all in a bag, I’m going to double check with my manager if she wants to hunt down some purses that need filling. We leave them in because it gets things on the shelf quicker and they look better filled. To kick me while I’m down, she didn’t even buy a single purse all she bought was a pair of pants.

Please don’t do this, do not be this person.

Naturally, the behaviors that entitled people exhibit affect people around them, too. “You know you are in the presence of an entitled person if you feel constantly on edge, constantly wondering if anything you say will offend them,” says Dr. Hokemeyer.

“Entitled people are draining. They make you feel emotionally diminished and physically exhausted. They can also evoke strong feelings of anger and resentment. This is due to their projecting airs of superiority over those around them, a superiority I hasten to add that is not justified by any measure. In sort, you feel invisible, devalued, irritated and angry around them.”

#16 These Are All Cigarette Butts

#17 Free For Me

#18 This Is Just Evil

“Entitled people can be difficult to be around and hard to maintain healthy relationships with,” adds Clark. “There are often higher levels of conflict, as they refuse to compromise or take responsibility for their actions. It can be emotionally draining to feel that you constantly have to attend to an entitled person, leaving you feeling drained, used, or manipulated.

Over time, entitlement can lead to resentment and an imbalanced relationship, with one person feeling like they are giving so much more. Accommodating the needs of an entitled person can cause stress, exhaustion, or emotional withdrawal, much like burnout.”

#19 In A Packed Tube, A Woman Prioritised Her Dog To Get A Seat Instead Of People Who Were Standing

The tube can be frustrating as it is, where people really push past you to get a seat without any consideration.

But this shocked me, there were 5-6 people standing on the right, and this Ms prioritised her dog getting a seat (also it was early in the morning, everyone going to work). Is this not getting out of hand? Shocking how much people lack empathy in this city sometimes.

#20 This Ah Listening To Videos On His Phone At Full Volume On The Morning Commute, Dispute Being Asked Twice To Stop

#21 Seriously?!

If a person notices that the entitlement of others is affecting them in these ways, there are measures they can take to deal with it.

Behavioral relationship expert Tracy Crossley suggests trying out the following ones:

Be honest about everything—from keeping expectations in check about what you are willing or not willing to do to saying how you really feel. Saying how you really feel without blaming them is to maintain your own sense of worth (people who are entitled will trample you if allowed to).
Stop worrying about their sense of entitlement and instead focus on why another person’s wants supersede what you want for yourself.
Look at the value of your interactions with them; is this a person you want to spend time with? If you feel you have no choice, then practice self-awareness when the conversation starts to go to their expectations, either state that you don’t wish to talk about it or shift the focus of the conversation, or leave.

#22 Kids At Walmart Opened Up Pokemon Cards And Took The Good Ones

#23 Apparently Parking At Your Assigned Spot With The Tesla Charger Coming Out Of Your Garage Was Too Hard

The owners spot is right next to mine but decided today to block me off and have me be late for work. Normally I’d contact the management office first, but they don’t open for a few hours so, here I am going on 1 hour of waiting for a tow.

#24 I Let My Mom Live With Me And Everytime I Turn Down The Heat She Removes The Thermostat

“Handling entitled people is a big effort, and one of the first steps is to realize that it is very unlikely that you will be able to change them,” notes Clark. “Entitlement continues because, very often, it works for people—they don’t necessarily have an incentive to change.”

So the best thing to do would be to limit engagement with that person,” says Dr. Hokemeyer. “To the extent that’s impossible, work on setting personal boundaries around them. To be effective, these boundaries need to be clear, consistent, and enforceable. Your responsibility is to your self-care and peace of mind,” he concludes.

#25 Someone Stomped On Our Snow Duck 10 Minutes After We Left

#26 Bring Gifts

#27 Update: Neighbors Won’t Stop Driving Through My Yard

#28 Please Donate Your Two Teslas 😂

#29 Main Character Crosses Railroad Tracks Early

#30 My Mom Ate My Clearly Labeled Food And Then Lied About It

I would like to start by saying I cook all the time. I also buy and share food all the time. She very rarely does either of those things, but whatever I can feed myself. She lets me stay rent free while I’m in college so I figure it works and I can pitch in that way. Anyways, this time I didn’t want to share so I very clearly labeled my food. I come home to eat the food I was looking forward to all day to find this is all she left me. She then tried to blame my grandpa. He has had three strokes and is 86 and does not eat that much. So I tell her I know good and well he did not eat it. I show her it was very clearly labeled “No”. She then lies again and says she didn’t see the label. There is no way she didn’t see the label. Ugh.

#31 The Local Park Is Collecting Maple Sap. Someone Put Their Doggy Bag In It

#32 This Is The Only Fridge At Work

There are shelves for lunch boxes but they fill the fridge with lunch boxes.

#33 Taking 14 Weights For Yourself And Then Spending 15 Minutes Stretching

#34 Give Me A (Basically) Brand New Car- For Free Of Course!!!

#35 Never Met An E-Scooter Owner I’ve Liked

#36 Owners Of Expensive Suv Asking For Free Drinks

#37 My Neighbor Swapped Their Broken Trashcan With Ours

#38 First Class…

#39 How Someone Parked Next To Me While I Was In An Appointment

#40 Some D*****s Discarded Their Fish In Our Community Swimming Pool

#41 Girl, Not On The Waffle House Counter Top

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