No one’s immune to a relationship going sour; even the strongest or longest ones might unexpectedly come to an end, but usually, not without a reason. For quite a few unlucky love birds, it’s learning a secret about their significant other that ends it all.
Members of the ‘Ask Reddit’ community recently shared their experiences with such unfortunate situations, after the user ‘Select_Example_794’ asked them about THE secrets they discovered that made them leave their ex. The netizens’ stories ranged from upsetting to plain shocking, so if you’re wondering what it takes to end a seemingly strong relationship, scroll down to find their answers on the list below.
#1
The guy she was cheating on me with found out about me. He found me at a bar told me about it, bought me a drink, and I immediately got on the phone and broke up with her.
I’m not going to go into super deep detail, but it was nice to have an honorable dude give me the warning instead of weeks of suspicion. I was about to get an apartment with her, and I dodged a bullet.
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#2
That he was fantasizing about places/ways my body would never be found. He said it out loud once – and that was it. We have kids together so I have to still see him but thankfully my now husband makes sure we’re never alone together.
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#3
I found text messages with his sister where she was giving him advice on how to freeze or microwave my birth control without damaging the packaging.
Boy, bye.
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#4
Turns out she was essentially collecting boyfriends like they were limited edition trading cards. I was apparently the ‘Summer Edition.’ Came to light when I bumped into ‘Mr. Spring’ at a coffee shop who was just as clueless as I was. We grabbed a drink to discuss our shared season of dismay, ended up becoming friends instead. Sort of a bittersweet bonus prize.
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#5
I bragged to a friend in front of my girlfriend that my girlfriend and I had only fought once in our two years of dating. My girlfriend said the reason we never fought was because she didn’t care enough about me to fight about anything.
She also was cheating on me, but I didn’t learn that one until after the relationship ended.
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#6
The first girlfriend I had, she wanted us to run each other’s credit to make sure we were financially compatible. I said “sure.” So she signed up for her credit report, I signed up for mine. She gave me a copy of her experian report – a pdf copy, and it looked good, so it ticked off the box of “fiscally responsible.”
A few weeks later, I overheard her talking to two different collection agencies and I wondered why she would be, if her credit score was over 780. I confronted her about it, and she told me she doctored the credit report, because she liked me, and she had horrible credit. I told her I would have stayed with her if she was making an effort to clean up her financial past, but I couldn’t overlook the lying.
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#7
I found videos he made at the beach of him zooming in on a prepubescent girl, like hours of video.
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#8
My ex-husband was having his 4th affair (that I know of) and told my then-13-year-old-daughter. He told her if she told me or anyone else he’d never speak to her again. After suffering in silence for 2 weeks, she finally told me after a trip to the ER to cure her migraine that was brought on by stress.
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#9
Saw a message preview on her lockscreen of a dude heart reacting to a message from her saying
“at least you know whenever I’m with him I’m thinking of you”.
We had just come back from a holiday for our anniversary and moved in together…
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#10
I found her and her sister texting about birth control. More specifically, the sister was gonna start deliberately sabotaging hers. When I asked about it, I was told it was okay, “she just trying to make sure he stays.” I left fast enough, you could see smoke. Wish I knew who the sister’s boyfriend, so I could have warned him.
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#11
3 months after moving our 3 kids & us to another state, she was cheating & got pregnant. She had the child with that guy, then proceeded to cheat on him to get pregnant again, except with twins. So 6 kids in 7 years with 3 people (that I know of).
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#12
Her and I had been high school best friends and dated for a little bit before she broke up with me after we graduated. We remained friends, had conversations to reconcile, and continued to be in contact with each other for over 18 years.
We had a silly pact where we would marry each other if we were over 35 and single. Well we were both single, done with dating, obviously had chemistry and decided to say screw it and go for it slowly. We were all in, I didn’t think anything otherwise and didn’t suspect a thing. She lived about 2 hours away by plane on a direct flight so seeing each other was easy.
Well after a few months she had a manic episode and went missing so I called her parents and they hadn’t heard from her in a week, they were out of town. So they were sending her sister to check on her and calling friends. I called her work at the deli she worked at. The moment I said that this was her boyfriend her boss said “well I’m her boyfriend.” Suffice to say she’d been living a double life. He’d been giving her money for her flights to visit sick family members (me) and see my dying dad (that she said was her uncle to him). I had also helped her a couple times for flights too so she was pocketing the money. Her family and I were in contact during the whole thing so I told them what was happening and she didn’t like that because she got exposed of the fraud she is to her family.
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#13
The coworker he was worried I was attracted to, I was. The difference is I never talked to him outside of work related things and shut him down immediately when he showed interest in me. A girl coworker gave my ex 1 oz of attention and he cheated and left me for her almost immediately. Later regretted it and said the grass isn’t always greener, now he’s with her because I wouldn’t move back with him and he didn’t want to be lonely.
Glad I stayed on my side of the lawn, I would never want to be the one responsible for how awful another person feels because I couldn’t stay faithful at work. A partner should never have to feel insecure about you going to your job.
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#14
I wanted to surprise her by picking her up from work and taking her out. Imagine how surprised I was when she ran out of work and jumped in the car of my best friend.
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#15
She knew we were tight on money after she moved in with me and she needed to find a job urgently. She claimed to be applying for jobs all the time. She didn’t want me looking over her resume or application letters.
Months later I discovered she never applied to any jobs out of fear for rejection.
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#16
We would have weekly lunch dates on Wednesdays at the same restaurant. It was his favorite place he said. He was only available Wednesday at noon he said.
Well, I had my phone stolen from work one Wednesday and decided to go wait at our spot for him anyways. I was chatting with a waitress who I hadn’t seen there before and eventually asked to barrow her phone to call my bf and let him know my phone got stolen but I was waiting there for him.
Typed in his number and his contact came up with a photo of him and his dog in his bed, no clothes. And we both said “how do you know my boyfriend?”
She usually has Wednesdays off and was just covering a shift that day. They have weekly Wednesday dinner dates.
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#17
Not sure when it started but: “On weekends I’m watching and caring for my old and delicate grandpa who has dementia” NOPE, was back with her cheating ex to “try again” LOL. Trash goes outside!
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#18
After two years he yelled and me that he didn’t like or respect my dad, not because he did anything wrong, but because he’s native. I guess my mom being white meant I was “passing enough” for him. Dude was an abusive POS to me constantly but when he said that it just broke something in me. He actually thought I was joking when I packed my stuff and left to my parents.
#19
A woman I used to be friends with made threats of cutting me open to take my baby. She also said she was dating my boyfriend. She said my boyfriend/baby daddy (now my ex of course) was going to hold me down while she cut the baby out of me, and that they would raise my baby together. I confronted boyfriend, he adamantly denied it, said she was just crazy and obsessed with him. She did have very severe psychiatric issues and outrageous threats and claims like that weren’t entirely out of the ordinary for her.
But it turned out he was actually in on it the entire time. I ended up finding the messages between the both of them about it. I also found out he had been poisoning me each time he got me pregnant. Our daughter is the only living child I have out of six pregnancies I had with him. I found all that out, then even some more bad info, so I cut him out of our lives completely and never ever looked back.
#20
He had an affair with my cousin.
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#21
He remained active on dating apps since the day we started dating. We were together for 3 years.
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#22
Her age.
It was college. I was 24, she said she was 26 (we weren’t dating at the time). We started dating and there were a couple of weird things that happened that were clues I ignored:
1. Her senior pictures looked pretty out dated 90s vibe.
2. She never let me see her ID.
Eventually, I googled her out of curiosity. Turns out she was 31. While the age wasn’t necessarily an inherent problem, lying about it certainly was.
#23
She didn’t pay the rent. Got upset with her and asked her if she could pay it. (I’d already paid my portion to her to send to the landlord). She said she did. Few days letter I get a message from the landlord asking for the rest. She still hadn’t paid it all. Finally I spoke to the landlord myself and took some money out of my savings to pay the rent. Found out after I got the number amount from the landlord and doing the math that she hadn’t only not paid the rent and lied, then just paid a part of it and lied, but she also pocked $50 of the rent money I had paid that she was meant to send to the landlord. I’d already had one foot out the door of the relationship by then but this is what made me actively start looking for other places to live.
#24
Had a years long addiction problem that when I discovered it he told me he wasn't going to stop and that I was the crazy person for having a problem with it. He was emotionally and psychologically abusive and I was terrified of his and his moods. Took a long time to get away from him but I did and now he's clean and a good dad to our son so I try not to Harbour too much anger or resentment toward him. Lessons have been learnt!
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#25
We were engaged , he had been acting weird so I went through his phone and found he had been discording women and telling them how horrible I am and how wonderful he is.
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#26
She was a HS teacher.
She liked one of her students a BIT TOO much.
#27
His side piece to which he got engaged to. He forgot to tell me even after they were engaged and I had the absolute pleasure of finding out from her.
#28
He would steal from me. The final straw was my wallet and then the replacement I bought.
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