“When you know, you know!” Lots of couples love using this saying to explain why they’ve decided to tie the knot soon into their relationships or before their brains are fully developed. And sometimes, they do know! Nearly half of people who marry their high school sweethearts stay together for good. But the other half, on the other hand, realizes that it’s impossible to see the future. And being in love while you’re young isn’t always enough to sustain a marriage forever.

Redditors who married young have recently been opening up about how their relationships are going now, a decade or more later. Below, you’ll find some of their most powerful stories, including some that are heartwarming and others that are heartbreaking. So enjoy scrolling through, and be sure to upvote the stories that touch you!

#1

Married at 25 divorcing at 47. Communication is key. Try to argue a little too, we never did.

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#2

Together since we were 15/14…. Married at 23/22 … just turned (turning) 50. Still in love, and happy.

All marriages have their tough times, our is no exception but we always made the effort to work through it, rather than running.

Could be also because both of us come from divorce and didn’t want that for us or our kids.

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#3

Married at 18. Been together 20+ years. Still happily married.

I love the man, he’s my rock, we have 3 kids, two with special needs, and instead of pulling us apart, it has brought us closer. We’ve had a few issues (mostly because we both grew up in conservative homes with traditional gender roles and we had to negotiate that quagmire to get to a healthier place) but for the most part we are super close, he writes me love notes on the bathroom mirror and we spend all our free time together. He’s truly my best friend.

BUT when we got married we just “settled down.” We live in the same small town, neither of us finished college. We’ve worked a series of jobs (not a career, just jobs to pay the bills) We don’t have much of a social life outside our small friend group (who we rarely see face-to-face). We are happy in our little home but when we became adults, our world never got bigger. We aren’t much different than we were as broke teenagers.

We don’t go on grand adventures, we don’t have fun stores from past vacations/times in our lives. I feel like we skipped out on the whole “adventure” part of being an adult and went straight to the “old, boring, bill paying” middle aged years.

Maybe it would have been different if we didn’t have kids right away. Honestly, we had them early thinking that we’d be empty nesters by our mid-40s, but due to life circumstances (specifically my kids special needs, that we could have never planned for-no family history, etc) this is going to be our forever.

Honestly, I think I got lucky in my choice of partner. I was a depressed teen in a bad situation and and I hopped on the first lifeboat out. It was 100% luck that he ended up being such a great guy, because I honestly did not have the best handle on what a healthy relationship was supposed to look like. We were just very, very lucky.

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#4

Married at 19. Still together after 34 years. Not gonna say it’s a perfect partnership but we both roll with the changes. Started out with him working and me at home with our son. Now I’m working full time and he’s the househusband. Tell you the truth, he’s better at it than I was.

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#5

I had turned 20 less than a week before and he’d just turned 19. We stayed married for 5 miserable years and 2 kids before I asked for a divorce. And it truly was misery the entire time.

We’ve now been divorced for over 10 years and there’s an ocean between us and we have a great sibling-like relationship lol.

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#6

Married at 23, over 20 years later the kids are grown, we’re still together and happy. Kids have actually thanked us at different points for still being together because their friends always had f****d up family situations and we didn’t.

It’s not always easy. If you start from a place of “we said for as long as we live, and we mean it” solving marital arguments/problems promptly, fairly, and lovingly becomes the most important thing in life.

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#7

We were in the same dorm and met her first day of college. Instant connection. Started dating officially like 3 days later. Married at 22 and 21 respectively. 14 years later we have three kids including newborn twins. Life is as good as can be.

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#8

Married at 22. I was too immature to make such a decision. I woke up one morning and looked at my sleeping wife and said, to myself, who is this person and how and why am I even here?

We divorced and I’m happily remarried.

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#9

Married at 19, still married to the same guy at 63. For all of the ups and downs of our marriage there is still great love there BUT I do wish that I had experienced a more independent, adult life, since I never went to college and I also went directly from my parents’ house to my married house.
Also, in 1980 if was so much more the norm to get married rather than live together, so there was that pressure too, to get married before settling down.

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#10

Married 30 years. Still happy. Life changes and gives you different challenges and it’s great to have a real partner to meet them with you.

I just noticed that he’s getting a little silver in his hair and I thought, what a privilege that I’m still here with him to see it. Maybe that’s stupid but that’s how I feel.

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#11

Both under 25. Marriage lasted a year and a month. Too young, too poor, too idealistic. We both went on to happy and successful long term second marriages. My wife and I were married for 38 years.

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#12

Got married at 18, one week after high school graduation. Divorced at 21 after my third deployment when I learned she slept with my former stepdad. They’ve been married for 15 years now.

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#13

I married my high school sweetheart when I was 23 and he was 25 after we’d dated for nine years. We just celebrated our 10-year wedding anniversary and are expecting our first kiddo in a couple of months. We started seeing each other when we were young, and we sort of shaped each other’s personality. We are still independent people and definitely have our own likes/dislikes/hobbies/etc., but we do share a lot of interests, and there is an inherent comfort and understanding between us, since we have now been together for over half of our lives.

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#14

Got hitched at 21, and it lasted for four years. As soon as the ink was dry on the marriage license, the real abuse began. We separated for six months before filing, and while waiting for our court date, I met someone new. My ex was already seeing someone (whom he cheated with), so I didn’t feel bad dating. That ‘someone new’ is watching TV in the living room right now. We’ll celebrate 24 years of marriage in May. He’s a peach, and I’m a very lucky woman to have him.

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#15

We’ve been best friends since high school. We met when I was 14 and he was 16. We dated when I was 18 and got married when I was 22. I am now 32 and he’s 34, and four kids later, I forget we aren’t teenagers anymore. We crawled out of poverty; broke away from our highly abusive, narcissistic, and racist families (we are a biracial couple) together; and broke generational curses with zero support systems. For better or worse…I always look forward to better with him, especially when it looks like every odd is stacked against us. One day we will get that vacation, baby. We just gotta hold on a little longer, and we will be laughing all the way to the bank, the same way we laughed together in the cardboard box!

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#16

Married at 23 and divorced by 27. He wanted to move back to his hometown. I fought it kicking and screaming. I was basically told to go or kick rocks. I went. I fell into a deep, dark depression from the lack of support from my husband and his family. I went home and filed for divorce. He had a new girl moved in before I could even file. That was 10 years ago. Took a lot of time for myself, then I finally met the man of my dreams. We got married a year ago and have one child together. My ex-husband is now in the sex offender registry. No idea why.

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#17

Been with my wife since high school. 16 yrs later, 2 miscarriages, 1 child(7) later and this woman greets me at the door when I come home. We still just sit around laughing about any and everything, we understand we are a couple but we are individuals so we don’t take away from each others hobbies but instead celebrate them and grow them—I buy her crochet things and she gets me gaming stuff. I work and she stays home but she only wants to stay home until our kid is more capable of being alone cause she just misses it. We’ve won big and we’ve lost big together. During Covid we lost our house and all are things, I went into a deep depression and she talked me OUT OF WORKING and encouraged me to stay home and it took me awhile to adjust but I stayed home for a couple of YEARS and all she did was love me more. Our role switch was dope, I kept the house together, her clothes and our daughter’s clothes. I missed the first years of my daughters life so when Covid happened and I started to stay home it seemed like a reward cause I was able to build even further my relationship with my little girl. We are nowhere near where we want to be, it’s hard to go back when you’ve reached the proverbial “top” and lose it all but now we’re in a familiar city and we’re rebuilding—-together. More than anything I’m glad I didn’t let depression win, she’s been worth every bit of this life and thankfully I’ve been able to reciprocate….now for the adult part—man we been at it since we were kids and I’m telling she still get into a whole a*s waterfall and I’m still getting up on demand. In spite of everything we’ve gone thru in our life, we still love each other mentally and physically. It’s going freakin great

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#18

I got married at 18, decided to leave at 19, found out I was pregnant so I stayed, tried to make it work, had another kid at 23 and asked for a divorce at 25. Finalized in 1992. Have not remarried because that one was enough for 10 lifetimes.

#19

Together 10 years later, married at 22 & 24, going better than ever!

Do not recommend early marriage though, at the very least don’t if you’re resistant to bringing in a therapist to learn new communication tools. My husband and I grew into completely different people as we came into ourselves and started unpacking the less-than-healthy lessons and relationship models our parents imparted on us and we just lucked out that the compromises on our needs met a good enough state we could agree on and our efforts in couple’s therapy to get back on the same page helped us be happy again. It took a lot of conflict and disagreement to get to that point though, and I wouldn’t wish that stress on anyone.

Also, the standards you set in your early relationship are the standards that will carry throughout the relationship. I’m lucky that my husband has always taken responsibility for maintaining our home and performing house labor, but the only other people I knew who got married around the same time ended up divorced largely because the girl thought love was going to motivate a dude who thought his only obligation to a marriage was make money and show up into taking on their part of the home labor, despite no indications in early dating it was a value they held.

#20

Got married at 23 and became parents at 24. We’re now 15 years in, and we’re doing fine. He’s still my best friend and we rarely fight. We started dating at 17 and 18, so it’s not as if it was a short relationship. Honestly, I’m sure part of the reason we’re never going to get divorced is that neither one of us has any desire at all to date again. It sounds terrible.

#21

We are 40. Started dating at 16 (2000) Got married in our 20s (2009). We have 2 kids. . . I love him very much & think he is a pretty amazing husband over all. But I do sometimes think picking your forever at a young age isn’t great. I think we both could have found people we have more in common with . . . We were just teens/young adults who kept not wanting to go thru the heartache of breaking up for good (we would split & get back together frequently until we had a kid together.) . . We love each other. But sometimes I think we both could have done better if we didnt try so hard to stick it out. But that’s ok. I’m happy if he is my forever.

#22

Not only did I marry young, I married my first boyfriend and he was long distance for 3 years before we even physically met. He’s from Kazakhstan and I’m American. We are still happily married and we’re going back to Kazakhstan to visit his family soon. He stayed by my side through my cancer treatments and he’s been incredibly kind to me.

#23

Married at 26, I knew at the time it wasn’t a perfect match, but people kept saying no relationship was perfect so we forced it. They were wrong. That relationship was not perfect so we divorced 10 years later and now I’m with the most perfect person I’ve ever met. If you’re not 100%, don’t get married, 80%-90% good isn’t good enough.

#24

I was less than 3 months from my 25th birthday when I got married. I was too young emotionally and didn’t listen to my gut or pay attention to the red flags…We divorced 16 years later…It should have been sooner, but I had to grow up and realize the issues and then get the nerve to leave. That was 7 years ago, and I love myself so much more than back then. Still single, but I’m also not settling for less than I’m worth.

#25

I married at 19 & my husband was 21, we just celebrated our 35th wedding anniversary. It’s going good, I’d say. There is nothing better than going through life with your best friend by your side. We’ve raised 2 kids, own a home, 2 dogs and now that the kids are grown we can mess around with our hobbies to our hearts content.

I have multiple health issues and he has been my rock throughout the 28 years since my MS diagnosis. It hasn’t always been easy, and we do get on each other’s nerves now and again, but we always get passed the rough parts. Jealousy and insecurity are things of the past and learning to trust and communicate was difficult from me coming from a childhood filled with DV, and he was up to the challenge and helped me get past a lot of my childhood issues and fears of abandonment. We’ve supported each other through health problems, job loss, loss of both of his parents, my Grandparents (they raised me after Mom was m*****ed), and both of my younger sisters. Knowing my other half is always there to reach out to at any time is comforting in a way I never expected. I love him more with each passing year.

#26

Married at 23, will be married 19 years this year. Going great, he’s my best friend. We have 2 kids out of the house and 2 still home (1 in college, 1 in high school). It’s fun planning for retirement and being able to travel now that the kids are older (sometimes with them, sometimes without). It wasn’t always easy, and we did marriage counseling twice, but our love never wavered and we meant our vows.

#27

I had just turned 24, she was 22. I told her right off that I loved her and was going to marry her and we eloped about a month later. We celebrated our 23rd anniversary in December. We have a son, and are still very in love with each other. I’ve done a lot of dumb things in my life, getting married is the smartest thing I’ve done. Unfortunately she is very sick and will only get worse as time goes on, but I wouldn’t change our time together for anything. I love her and being with her is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

#28

I was 19, he was 20. I was four months pregnant. We were planning on getting married when we found out I was pregnant. People made bets we wouldn’t last 5 years. Then 10 years. We just celebrated 40 years. FORTY YEARS. My oldest brother has died, my two oldest sisters and younger brother are divorced. My next older sister literally hates me and punishes me, throwing my pregnancy and “sex before marriage” in my face…still, 40 years later. I don’t take it personally because I know her bitter-twice divorced a*s just can’t handle we’ve done well and she is still struggling. I’m not saying we haven’t seen a lot of ups and downs in 40 years, because we have seen a LOT of s**t. 40 years is a long time. There’s been a LOT of s**t, a LOT of great stuff, a LOT of s**t, a lot of laughs, a lot of boring times. Two kids and three grandkids later. Lots of jobs, vacations, trips. Fights, arguments, joy, sex, dry spells, love, lots of love, nights on the couch, nights away, nights intertwined. We’ve been through practically everything together. Loves and losses. And here we are….STILL. Are we still “in-love” with each other? I don’t know. Some days yes, some days no. Sometimes we can’t stand each other. But here we are. Forty f**king years. Yeah, f**king, not as much f**king, but still, here we are. Mostly because of our sense of humor. And really, who wants to do jail time.

#29

Met at 21. Had a daughter at 23. Married at 24. Divorced at 29. Had two more kids and currently remarried my current husband.

My ex husband and I were both very young and not ready for what we did. After years together we grew apart. I changed and he didn’t. That was part of the problem. He is a 21 year old in the body of a 37 year old.

#30

We were both 25 when my husband and I got married. Had been together since age 18 & 19, had our daughter at 21, and married at 25.

It’s going fairly well by all accounts, but not without any problems or things to work through. It helped for us that we already had our daughter, we had already been living together and already had agreed upon financial stuff long before we even talked about marriage.

I think the biggest piece of advice or wisdom I have, is find a partner who is willing to let you grow. Someone who sees you in any season of life and wants to be around you. Someone who you in return will let grow, change and see through different seasons of life.

There are huge changes that happen after age 25-26 and even more after you turn 30. And if you are with someone who is expecting the same old you, it’s never going to work, no matter what age you were when you got married. Marriage means constantly and actively choosing that person over and over again. Everyday. In every part of your lives together.

#31

Met at 21, married at 24. A ROUGH decade together with good times sprinkled in, a couple of kids, and miraculously it’s now a dream marriage after I told him I was filing for divorce at the end of last year. I’m as shocked as you are, but very happily so. He saw he was going to lose everything and completely changed for the better and now he says he’s never been happier in his life.

But, I’d still recommend to younger people to wait until you’re at least late 20s to marry at the earliest.

#32

Married at 20. We celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary next year. Traveled, bought a home, and thoroughly enjoyed each other for 7 years before having a child. I think sometimes people get really caught up in the idea of having a wedding and then they immediately have children. Don’t get me wrong, that’s totally great for some people. But my nugget of advice for all newly engaged/married couples is to really enjoy your marriage first. Give it the time it needs to flourish, because if things end up not working out in the end, you can amicably split with no children involved or affected. Just my two cents.

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#33

We met and started dating in 8th grade at 14, married at 23, and will be celebrating our 16 year anniversary this year. When you find the right person to make a team with, it’s easy to wake up every day and look forward to life with her!.

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#34

Next year (2025), I turn 32 and will celebrate my 10th anniversary. I lucked out to have an amazing partner that has changed alongside me without falling out of love.

I do wish I had allowed myself more time to be a fun crazy single bachelor before my marriage, though. But I’m sure some people would happily trade their wild stories and memories for the stability and comfort I have now. ??‍♂️.

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#35

Both under 25 when we married. 41st wedding anniversary this year.

#36

We got together at 18, and we lasted till for 10 years . He wanted to live a single life, and I gave it to him .

#37

Married at 18 husband 21. He died when he was 49. He told me when we got married and all the way through our marriage he wouldn’t reach 50.

#38

Started dating when 18/19, got married at 25 and about to hit 50 together soon.

Still love the hell out of that lady.

#39

Still married- going on 23 years.

#40

Divorced – I’m doing great. kids are doing great. ex is an obese alcoholic recluse about to get ejected from her third marriage.

#41

We were married at 25 and it’s going well.

We’re 41 now, have four kids, a nice house, and two good jobs.

#42

Met senior year of college. Dated a year before we got engaged and then married a year later. Married at 23 and will be celebrating our 28th anniversary this year! We have 2 kids and we love each other more than ever.

#43

Married at ages 18-20. Still together, 24 years, (40-42)things are getting better with age and time .

#44

Married at 21 and 22, we’ll be married 17 years this year. It’s not been all good, but there have been far more good times than bad and we’ve had quite the adventure together.

#45

She is leaving after 13+ years because and I quote “the grass is greener somewhere else”.

#46

Married at 23, going on 17 years. The seven year itch was rough but otherwise good.

#47

My best friend married at 22, despite everybody telling him not to, after cheating multiple times on his wife he’s now separated with two children and as miserable as you could imagine.

#48

Married at 25. Divorced at 25. Life is so much better without that hoe.

#49

Married at 24. Still going strong after 38 years. Got a daughter and 2 grandkids. We’re both retired now, living our best lives.

#50

Married at 22. We are still together and going strong despite the fact that I have severe health anxiety at 31 and I feel bad that my wife has to deal with this ?.

#51

Married at 19. Divorced and remarried now.

#52

Married at 22 49 now still married.

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