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Life is full of temptations. But when we know there will be negative consequences, we can learn to resist. Eating that entire cake in one sitting will inevitably lead to a tummy ache, and staying up until 3am will leave you feeling drained tomorrow. And if you send your ex an embarrassing message, it just might end up online.

Bored Panda has scoured the internet to find screenshots of the cringiest and most bizarre messages people have received from their former partners, so we’ve gathered our favorites down below. Enjoy scrolling through and feeling thankful that you weren’t a part of these interactions, and keep reading to find a conversation with Dating and Relationship Coach Rachel New!

#1 Girl From High School Got Engaged. Her Ex Commented On Her Fiancé’s Picture

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There’s nothing more beautiful than being in love. The world is a little bit brighter when you have someone to cuddle up with each night, and knowing that you always have someone ready to provide support and laughter is a wonderful feeling. But when what was once a “perfect” relationship crumbles, it can be challenging knowing how to pick up the pieces and move on.

No matter how many times we remind ourselves not to make that phone call, send that text message or respond to our ex’s Instagram story, it seems that many of us can’t resist. In fact, research has found that 40-50% of people have reunited with a former love to rekindle their relationship. But that doesn’t mean this is a good idea, as people in these on-again relationships tend to report lower satisfaction, feeling less validation, less love, lower sexual satisfaction and less fulfillment of their needs.

#2 Ex-Boyfriend Trying To Talk To His Ex-Girlfriend Through Cash App

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#3 My Ex Texted Me At Work Asking For “Pics” Thinking I Was Someone Else, And Now I Pray For Whoever Alice Is

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So why do we reach out to our exes anyway? Isn’t trying the same thing and expecting different results insanity? To gain some insight on this topic from an expert, we reached out to UK-based Dating and Relationship Coach Rachel New. “After breaking up with someone, it’s a good idea to take time to process the emotions and the thoughts. We might feel grief, sadness, anger, fear, depression, anxiety as well as relief, excitement, exhilaration and hope,” the expert told Bored Panda.

“There will be all the reasons why we broke up, but there will also be other voices in our head saying, ‘Now I’m all alone’ and ‘What is wrong with me?’ and ‘Maybe I should’ve tried harder to make it work.’ Getting in touch with our ex often happens when we’re feeling despondent, alone or just miss them,” Rachel explained. “But that’s not a good time to do it. We are just trying to give ourselves instant relief from the negative emotions, instead of letting ourselves sit with and process them. It’s very painful but essential.”

#4 Using A Cash App To Beg Your Ex To Unblock You

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#5 My Girlfriend’s Ex Asks Her This Every Couple Of Months

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#6 Used To Hook Up With This Guy A Year Ago, He Messages Me Out Of Nowhere Asking To Hook Up Again And This Happens

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Alongside the grieving and processing, Rachel recommends that people fresh out of relationships make a list of what they want for their life and what kind of partner will support that journey. “Who will bring out the best in us and allow us to be ourselves? What kind of shared journey could we have together? Then when you start thinking about getting in touch or getting back together, use this list to help you decide whether your ex fits with your values, dreams and aspirations,” the coach shared. “Only make decisions about contacting them when you’re feeling good and with evidence from your list!”

Rachel says we also need to be honest with ourselves about the reasons why we want to get back in touch. “Is it because you miss them and need quick relief from that, or is it because you are serious about exploring getting back together and need to have some purposeful conversations about how things would need to be different if you did?”

#7 It Was A Social Experiment

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#8 This Is My Ex From A Few Years Ago. He Claims That He Loves Me And Then Does This

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#9 Not Sure What My Ex Is Trying To Accomplish

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If you just want relief because you’re feeling lonely, Rachel says it’s probably not the best time to reach out. “The need for a warm connection with your ex is like an addiction and you’re going [to have to quit] cold turkey,” she explained. “Instead of getting a hit from your drug, you need some strategies to meet your emotional needs in other ways, such as cuddling a teddy bear, seeing a good friend, starting a new hobby, or walking a dog.”

But if you are actually serious about getting back together, Rachel says you’ll need to plan what to discuss, what your needs are, what you’d like to change, and what other information you’ll need from them. “This decision shouldn’t be a spontaneous one, but something considered and well-thought out,” she noted.

#10 Messages A Friend Got From Their Ex

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#11 My Friend Dumped Her Ex-Boyfriend Almost Four Months Ago. Last Night He Decided To Leave A Message In Her Driveway With Pumpkins

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#12 “Nice Guy” Ex Tries To Make Me Jealous By Claiming He Had Sex Once And Got Drunk And Ended Up Having A Child Out Of Wedlock. These Messages Will Surely Entertain You

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You also might want to contact an ex for more information about why you broke up, to help you process it and learn from it. “This is often used as a cover for the first reason – to get quick relief from the pain or grief or desire to be close – so think carefully about your motives,” Rachel pointed out.

And sometimes it’s necessary to communicate with our exes, for example, if you have children together. “You’ll need to find a way to communicate, perhaps with the help of a coach or mediator, that is productive and focused on practical tasks and solutions,” Rachel says. “You could agree on boundaries such as only discussing the children in your messages, only using one platform to communicate, and using language that is business-like and respectful, as if you are work colleagues.”

#13 That’s Actually Hilarious

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#14 Ex Cheated On Me On My Birthday. This Is The Exchange We Had Today, I Was Expecting An Apology And Maybe Some Maturity But I Guess That’s Too Much To Ask

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#15 My High School Ex-Girlfriend Drops By My Social Media Every So Often To Deliver Some Tacky Comments About How Great She’s Doing. I Dumped Her 25 Years Ago

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“If you are going to contact your ex, make it clear why you are getting in touch and what you want,” Rachel told Bored Panda. “Otherwise it’s not fair on them while they are trying to process and move forward. Think about the language you’re using so that you’re creating a new way of interacting, rather than just going back to how things were.”

“And it might be best to ask if it’s okay to get in touch, given a specific reason,” the dating expert continued. “You could say, ‘How would you feel about occasionally messaging each other, so we can stay updated about each other’s families?’ or ‘Would you be open to meeting up to talk about why we broke up, to help me make sense of it?’ If they say no, respect that.”

#16 Sure, My Ex Totally Didn’t Mean To Send Me A Selfie With Her Marriage Certificate

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#17 I Updated My Relationship Stuff On Social Media Accounts, Ex Decides To Text Me After A Year Of Ghosting

I don’t use Twitter I don’t know what she’s talking about. Not a month or two. The last time we were together was in 2015.

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#18 My Ex Of 5 Years. I Have Him Blocked On All Social Media (Including Linkedin). Opened Yelp Today And Found He Has Sent Me Yet Another Message

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While Rachel says that it’s possible to break up several times and then eventually become happily married for decades, often getting back together is done for purely emotional reasons and the underlying challenges are not dealt with. “Both parties need to feel their needs are being heard and that their partner is willing to explore ways to meet them,” Rachel shared.

“Some people have a pattern of breaking up and getting back together many times. The make-up sex can be amazing, but there are many other reasons for getting back together, such as fear of losing someone they’re meant to be with, fear of abandonment or rejection or being alone, or an inability to tolerate negative emotions,” the expert explained. “I work with lots of people going through break-ups and talking it through and making sense of it really helps. It can be a lonely time and we crave that closeness with someone we’ve shared a lot of experiences with, someone that gets us and knows us.”

#19 My Ex Found Me On Twitter. We Broke Up 7 Years Ago

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#20 Not Over His Ex

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#21 Happy Valentine’s Day To My Cheating, Stealing, Lying, Emotionally Manipulative Ex

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Rachel also says it can be very distressing if an ex won’t stop contacting you. “The quickest way to get over each other is not to have any contact for about six months. It’s very hard, but it works,” she told Bored Panda. “Not having contact via social media is an essential part of this. You are going cold turkey, so you don’t want any new data from them at all. Don’t give yourself the opportunity to see any photos of them via other people’s social media either. You will both need to agree and understand the reasons why this works. If your ex doesn’t stick to it, try communicating again why this approach works and why you need their help to do it.”

#22 Ex Continued To Text Me After Over A Year Had Passed And Finally Threw A Hail Mary

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#23 Catfishing

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#24 My Ex Has Been Relentless In Trying To Contact Me In Every Possible Way She Can. On This Occasion, Two Different Numbers Texted Me To Harass Me Some More

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“If you are inconsistent with an ex who keeps contacting you – sometimes encouraging them by replying, even just to tell them not to contact you – they are less likely to stop,” Rachel continued. “Communicate one last time, firmly and calmly, that you are quite sure that you don’t want to be in touch. After that, not responding at all usually works but may take time. Next, you can block them. Remember, being consistent is important: if you block them on Whatsapp but not on Instagram it won’t work. And you can block them from a place of empowerment and in a healthy way: it doesn’t have to be done from anger or fear.”

#25 I Broke Up With My Ex-Girlfriend, She Thinks Jealousy Will Get Me Back

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#26 My Ex Threatened Me On My Birthday, This Was What Happened Afterwards

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#27 My Ex-Boyfriend Continuously Contacts Me From Alt Accounts. Would Always Describe Himself As “A Kind Gentleman”. It’s Been 3-4 Years. He’s In His Late 20’s

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“Breaking up is very painful and brings up all our vulnerabilities and deepest longings. Take care of yourself and show compassion and kindness towards yourself,” Rachel says. “Endings are an inevitable part of life and can be healthy – don’t try to minimize or escape from the grieving process. Try to visualize yourself in a year’s time, free from your attachment: will you be happy you moved on and gave yourself the chance to meet someone who’s a better fit?”

If you’d like to hear more dating advice from Rachel, be sure to visit her website or purchase her dating workbook!

#28 An Apology Letter From An Ex-Girlfriend

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#29 My Cheating Ex Is Desperate

The context for the third slide: we do not have a son, that’s just what she wanted to name him if we ever had a son.

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Are you rethinking sending that risky text to your ex after reading through these pics, pandas? There’s nothing wrong with wanting to reach out, but remember to choose your words wisely and carefully. And it might be best to keep them to yourself altogether! Keep upvoting the pics you find particularly amusing, and then if you’re interested in reading even more cringey interactions between former lovers, check out this Bored Panda article next!

#30 More Astrology Breakups

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#31 Left Is My Ex-Boyfriend And Right Is My Boyfriend During The Time

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#32 My Ex-Girlfriend Ladies And Germs

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#33 Sister’s Ex Tried To Make Her Jealous, Ended Up Calling Her Crying

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#34 My Ex Regularly Drunk Texts Me Trying To Get Me To Hang Out. Can’t Even Avoid It On Halloween

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#35 My Ex-Girlfriend “Checks Up” On Me After Changing Her Relationship Status

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#36 Ex-Girlfriend Who I Haven’t Talked To In 7 Months “Accidentally” Sent Me A Message

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#37 So I Thought About Giving My Ex Another Shot

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#38 Ex-Fiancé Likes To Slide Into My Texts Every 6 Months Or So

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#39 Ex-Girlfriend Accuses Me Of Being Gay For My Best Friend I’ve Known Since Kindergarten

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#40 My Ex’s Futile Attempts To Reach Me After Dumping Him And Blocking Him On Everything

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#41 When You Block Your Ex So He Makes Fake Instagram Accounts To Contact You

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#42 Woman Fakes A Wedding To Get Ex’s Attention

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#43 Ex Begs For Nudes

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#44 My Ex-Wife’s Attempt At Making Me Jealous

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#45 That Moment Your White Trash Ex Moves On, So You Write Her A “Rap Verse” On Her Status

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#46 A Text I Got From My Ex At 1:30 Am This Morning

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#47 Guy I Know Has An Encounter With His Ex From Middle School

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#48 I Blocked My Ex On Everything And Now He’s Sending Me A Dollar On The Cash App Just To Leave Me Messages

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#49 Ex Fiancée Sent Me A Text And One Not Meant For Me

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#50 My Now Ex-Boyfriend Has Been Sending Me Texts Non-Stop. I Sent Him A Message Saying Me Moving Out And Us Breaking Up Is For The Best, And This Was His Response

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#51 Psycho Ex Who Knocked 2 Of My Teeth Out, Threatened Me With A Broken Beer Bottle, And Pulled A Gun On Me Tryna Pull The “Nice Guy’s” Card

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#52 My Ex Trying To Get Me Back

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#53 My Ex Found Out That I Moved On And Still Asked Me To Date Him

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#54 “Nice Guy” Ex Snaps After Being Ignored

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#55 Ladies And Gentlemen, I Present To You: My Ex

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#56 From My Ex, I Haven’t Seen Him For 2 Years

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#57 My Ex Tries To Guilt Me Into Talking To Him, Makes Himself The Victim, Then Tries To Tell Me About His Snake?

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#58 It’s Been Over A Year Since I Broke Up With Her, She Finally Reached Out To Apologize. Ladies And Gentlemen, I Present My Ex

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#59 My Friend Recently Ended A Toxic Relationship. After Blocking His Ex On Every Social Media App, She Continues To Egg Him On Through Gmail

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#60 My Ex

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#61 My Ex’s Responses When She Broke Up With Me And I Quit Responding To Her

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#62 My Ex Cheated On Me And She Has The Audacity To Say I Should Apologize That I Didn’t Give Her Enough Attention

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#63 My Ex Texted Me After I Found Out He Cheated. This Was Over A Year Ago

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#64 My Ex From High School Sent Me A Snapchat Video Of Him Begging Me For Nudes, And It Got Worse

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#65 Dude Uses His Fish Dying To Hit Up His Ex-Girlfriend

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#66 My Ex Texted Me And Said Didn’t Mean To

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#67 My Ex Forgot He Has A New Girlfriend At A Bar Close

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#68 Haven’t Spoken To My Ex In A Year. She “Accidentally” Texted Me To Tell Me That She Got Engaged

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#69 From My Friend’s Ex Who Stalks Her And “Happened” To Be At The Same Bar As Us Last Night

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#70 An Ex Of Mine Contacted Me Out Of Nowhere

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#71 My Ex “Reaching Out” After A Couple Of Months

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#72 Ex-Girlfriend Totally Unintentionally Sent Me This Photo… By Accident

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#73 My Ex Actually Just Pulled The Pity Card

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#74 My Girlfriend Woke Up To A Long Text From Her Ex She Hasn’t Spoken To In Years, Seemed Perfect To Share Here

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#75 My Ex Who I Broke Up With 7 Years Ago

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#76 My High School Ex Of 4 Months Messaged Me Today

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#77 Friend’s Ex-Boyfriend (2 Years Past) Won’t Take A Hint. She Has Blocked Him Everywhere And He Messages Me Instead

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#78 My Ex Sent Me This Gem This Morning

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#79 My Cousin’s Ex Asked Her For Money For The Second Time Since They Broke Up. His Response To Her Calling Him Out Is Golden

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#80 The Guy Sent Me Pics Of Him And His Ex Kissing. Then Unloaded All His Baggage During The First Phone Conversation Without Even A “Hello” To Start With

I never thought I would get one of these “hospital/ surgery” messages in my life but here it is… And all his messages were while I was asleep.

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#81 My Ex Talking To Me About Her Recent Breakup. They Were Together For 1.5 Weeks

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#82 My Ex’s Extra Suave One-Liner

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#83 Ex-Wife Complains About Our Cat But Doesn’t Want To Do Anything About It

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#84 A Text With My Ex Wife

Today marks the 3rd anniversary of my little brother’s passing and I let my daughter spend time with my parents instead of going to school.

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#85 I Checked In To See If Ex Was Okay, And He Threatened To Hack Everything I Love

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#86 This And 2 Missed Calls From My Ex

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#87 My Former Boyfriend’s Ex Send Me This On Both Text And Imessage

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#88 My Friend Had Dinner With An Ex And Regrets It

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#89 My Ex, Who Regularly Cheats On His Current Girlfriend. Self-Proclaimed “Nice Guy”

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#90 My Ex From 9 Years Ago Called Me And I Hung Up On Him. This Is His Text Response After Ignoring His Calls

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#91 My Friend’s Conversation With Her Ex-Boyfriend

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#92 Guy Texts His Ex Of 2 Years Who’s Been In A Relationship For 1.5 Years

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#93 I Broke Up With My Ex After Losing Interest 3 Months Into The Relationship

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#94 I Posted A Pic Of My Friend Before She Left For China. This Was My Ex-Girlfriend’s Reaction

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#95 Ex Cheats On Me And Says I Threw Him Away

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#96 A Conversation I Had With My Ex This Morning

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#97 Note Ex Gave To Me With My Hoodie When I Asked For It Back

My ex would flirt with guys and would pretty much brag about it to me. I broke up with her and got with a friend of mine about 3 weeks later.
After calling me a cheater and talking behind my back to every person we both know, she tried to get back together with me recently and I gladly denied it.

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#98 Ex-Girlfriend’s Last Message I Ever Read. She Really Went Out Of Her Way To Take A Stab. Never Responded. Blocked Out Identifying Info

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#99 Cheating Ex Reached Out

We were together for 8 years (lived together for 7). He had a girl pen pal for 12 years (they had a very inappropriate Snapchat relationship that he and I constantly fought about), and he met up with her behind my back, cheated on me, and then left me for her. Before meeting her, he swore to me up and down that I was the one even though he’d get drunk and ask her for inappropriate pictures constantly. I moved out on August 2nd and we haven’t spoken in person since. The audacity of this man.