Mutual respect is ever so important between partners. It’s hard to imagine any long-term relationship being happy and healthy if one person constantly tries to control the other. If you’re constantly making your partner do things they’re uncomfortable with, things are on rocky ground.
And you should be very careful what you wish for! An anonymous woman opened up to the r/AITAH community about how her husband wanted to show her off to his friends on his birthday. So, he asked her to wear a thong. However, he later regretted his decision and tried to get her to change bikinis. You’ll find the full story and the advice the net gave the woman as you scroll down.
Some people are very domineering in relationships which can make life hard for their significant others
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One anonymous woman asked the net for advice after she got into an argument with her husband over her outfit at his birthday party
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Enforcing healthy boundaries is good for everyone
There are lots of different types of boundaries. Verywell Mind notes that the most common ones are emotional, intellectual, physical, sexual, time, communication, and material boundaries. Many of them revolve around the idea that it’s alright to agree to disagree over some things.
For instance, intellectual boundaries could mean respecting your and your partner’s right to disagree and have your own opinions. Meanwhile, communication boundaries involve having clear rules when it comes to arguing, including not calling each other names and avoiding rehashing older, irrelevant arguments.
Sexual boundaries include any needs and limitations that a person has relating to sexual interactions. This can range from where and when someone feels comfortable with intimacy to what kind of contact they are (not) comfortable with.
Setting these boundaries is a win-win for everyone because they empower people and give them autonomy. Healthy boundaries help protect a person’s individuality, identity, thoughts, and feelings.
Furthermore, firm and healthy boundaries promote respect and set expectations. They also protect a person from situations where they can be manipulated or taken advantage of. Boundaries are also proof that you and your partner are communicating with each other about your needs. And that can bring you closer together.
Boundaries are a core part of any relationship, but they’re especially essential wherever romance is concerned. They protect us and our needs. However, nobody is a mind-reader. Even something that sounds like common sense might not be obvious to your partner.
So, it falls to each and every single one of us to communicate our boundaries and then enforce them if/when someone ignores them.
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Open and honest communication forms the foundation of happy relationships
The story made a huge splash on Reddit where it spread like digital wildfire. At the time of writing, the anonymous author’s post has 22k upvotes and 7k comments and counting. Unfortunately, the author deleted her account after her story went viral, so we were unable to reach out to her for further comment.
A ton of internet users from all corners of the globe wanted to share their perspectives on the sensitive situation. Many readers were genuinely shocked that the OP’s husband treated her in such a demeaning way.
From some netizens’ perspective, the issue wasn’t that he wanted to show her off; the problem was that he only wanted to show off her body.
One redditor wrote that the main issue was that her husband treated her as a piece of property and eye candy for his party. “He wanted the attention of his buddies saying how lucky he was. He wanted the feeling of having a hot servant girl bringing his every need whom he can ram after the party. He wanted to feel like a big shot,” they shared their interpretation of the situation.
What complicated everything was a lack of open and honest communication from both partners. It’s a cliché at this point, but transparency and proper communication are inescapable if you want to have a serious relationship built on trust, not guesswork.
For instance, the author could have pushed back against her husband’s initial idea for her outfit a bit more strongly. She could have explained to him how his behavior and requests are making her feel and that she feels deeply uncomfortable doing what he’s asking of her.
Saying ‘no’ is a reasonable stance to take. Just because you refuse to comply with your partner’s request does not automatically mean that the conversation has to devolve into a massive argument. Any healthy relationship involves respect for boundaries and privacy.
However, the core issue was still the man making his wife uncomfortable and then flip-flopping on his request.
He could have been far more empathetic and put himself in his spouse’s metaphorical shoes. Good partners consider each other’s feelings, wants, and dislikes. On the flip side, they’re also not afraid to voice their opinions and desires either. It’s a give-and-take sort of situation.
How would you have handled the situation if you were in the story author’s shoes, Pandas? How do you handle requests that make you deeply uncomfortable? Share your thoughts with everyone else in the comments.
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Many readers were appalled by what happened. Here’s what they told the woman
Other readers had slightly different opinions. They were critical of the author, not just her husband
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