When you meet a new person, it’s not unusual to check out their social media or google their name to see what will come up. But it gets weird and creepy when it doesn’t stop there and you do a proper background check of a person you are planning to marry.
Finding out that a person you trusted your life to was compiling a file on you, your family and childhood friends may shock you and there is no way of telling what that reaction would be. When redditor sherlockholmes498 realized that exact thing happened to her, she kind of lost it and is asking the internet if she might have overreacted.
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The OP went on a vacation with her husband’s family and accidentally found out he ran a background check before they got engaged
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The Original Poster (OP) has been married to her husband for three years and they’d been together for 2.5 years before getting married. They were on a vacation with her husband’s family and she wasn’t really interested in joining their activities a few times, so she wanted to stay home.
Because sherlockholmes498 didn’t bring her computer with her, her husband let her use his so that she wouldn’t be bored. While using her husband’s computer, the wife made a folder with her own name to keep her activities organized.
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The husband gave her wife his computer as she didn’t bring hers so she would have something to do while she didn’t want to go out with the rest of the family
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One time she was searching for that folder and typed in her name to find it and didn’t expect there to be another one. However, it had beencreated by her husband and not her. When the OP opened it, she found that there was a full report not only on her, but her family and friends.
At first she felt betrayed, but when she saw that there was information about her family that she didn’t know herself and the husband never mentioned it, sherlockholmes498 started to get angry.
While typing in her name, she found a file containing a report of an investigation done on her, her family and two childhood friends
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The woman read as much as she could before the husband and his family came back and in her own words, she exploded on him in front of everyone. The husband immediately tried to calm down his wife saying that it was no big deal and his cousin thought that it was completely normal because the husband was not the only one who did that.
The husband wanted to talk in private and talk more calmly, but the wife was done and wanted to leave. She didn’t want to stay in that house anymore or make the husband leave because it was owned by his parents.
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The report contained information that she didn’t even know about her family and friends which made her get mad that her husband would keep it a secret
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The vacation was cut short and both the wife and the husband returned home. The OP gives us more information in the comments, answering some people’s questions. We learn that the husband’s family is wealthy and that he explained that he did the background check “so that there weren’t any surprises in the future.”
The husband got the report a few days before he proposed and he also showed it to his dad as it was partially his idea. Interestingly, the OP’s MIL suggested her son tell his then-future wife about the investigation, but it seems that he didn’t listen to his mom.
What bothers the OP the most is that he didn’t warn her about this and wasn’t planning to. She said in the comments that one of the things that the report found was a major thing she didn’t know about her family and her husband not telling her anything about it really upset her.
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The OP had quite a strong reaction but the family didn’t think it was a big deal so she asks the internet if she was too sensitive to react in that way
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In the question the OP is asking if she reacted in an inappropriate way, so we would like to hear your opinions. Was she being overly dramatic or was her reaction to the news justified? Also, what do you think of the husband conducting an investigation on his wife’s life and not planning to tell her anything? Do you think it’s normal and not a big deal as he believed? Share your thoughts with us in the comments!
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