The thing is that we humans are social creatures and everyone needs someone. Knowing that there indeed is a person out there who cares for us is enough to see us through in tough times. It can be anyone from your parents to your friends or your partners because riding solo can definitely be difficult, especially when you are a teen.
So Reddit user wildlayabout was feeling really neglected when his parents gave all their attention to their adopted kids. When he literally begged for their attention, they berated him and even threatened him with therapy!
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Having parents that care about you and give you all their attention can be really helpful in life, but not everyone is lucky to have it
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The poster’s very rarely included in family therapy for his adopted siblings, where he’s told not to show off, and he feels jealous that his parents favor his adopted siblings over him
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As they’re barely present on his important days, he requested that he wanted a birthday dinner with just the parents and not the siblings
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They were angered by this and threatened him with therapy, so he tried to speak about his achievement but they said he was ‘bragging’ when his siblings were traumatized
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One of his sisters said that they should have a family outing that focused on him, but the other one said that he just wanted to “feel special”; in truth, he wants someone to care for him
Today, we dive into the life of the original poster (OP), who’s a 15-year-old living with his parents and three adopted siblings. As the kids were adopted during their pre-teen ages, they had to go to adoption therapy and family therapy with the parents. During these sessions, the poster has rarely been included, and even when he was, it was to tell him to be less of a “show off”.
Well, no wonder he feels jealous of his adopted siblings, because his parents have been mostly absent for the major occasions in his life. At times, they even demanded that the poster give them space with the other children so that their bonding activities were not disrupted. Ouch, that does sound quite hurtful.
So, it’s natural that he felt left out and asked his parents for some alone time just with them on his birthday dinner. Things just escalated after that as they were not pleased to hear that they favored the other kids over him. In fact, they even threatened him with therapy. After a few minutes of silence, OP broke it and spoke about his achievement.
Guess what? They said that it was not the time to brag as his siblings were traumatized and they needed more attention. They even accused him of not considering them his “real” siblings. Well, that must have further broken OP. But after dinner, one of his sisters suggested that they go out as a family but pay more attention to him, and the poster was thrilled about it.
But it didn’t last long as the other sister pulled him aside and claimed he just wanted to “feel special”. That was probably the breaking point for him as he felt like running away. All he wants is for someone to genuinely care for him. Well, when he vented on Reddit, folks showered him with a ton of empathy and love.
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They were quite outraged with the couple and expressed that he has every right to have emotional needs from his parents. Just because the adopted siblings need more attention does not mean that they shouldn’t agree to spend one birthday dinner just with him. It is completely their fault for neglecting the emotional needs of the teen.
PsychCentral states that growing up in an emotionally neglectful family, with your feelings ignored or discounted, has profound effects on how you feel as an adult, the choices you make, and your perceptions of yourself. It also stays with you for your entire life, hanging over your relationships, and holding them back from developing the depth and resilience you deserve.
Research suggests that approximately 5 million Americans are adoptees, and a study has observed that these adoptees are likely to suffer through emotions like grief, guilt, loss, and shame. So it is quite admirable that the parents have been taking care of the mental health of the adopted kids, as many folks pointed out.
However, they also said that in the process, the parents have been completely ignorant that the other teen also needs the same attention from them. Research also states that disfavored children can experience bad outcomes like depression, greater aggressiveness, lower self-esteem, and poor academic performance.
People also commented that despite suffering so much because of the parents favoring the other kids, the poster does not at all seem bitter. In fact, they applauded him for the way he has handled the situation. It was clearly evident that the whole situation is breaking his heart, yet he spoke about his siblings with compassion, and all he wants is for someone to care for him.
What would you do if you were in his shoes? Let us know in the comments.
Redditors empathized with the poster and didn’t hesitate to call out the parents who have been ignoring his emotional needs
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