Many adults in the U.S. still live with their parents. Recent statistics show that about 1 in 3 people aged 18 to 34 are living with at least one parent. Many do it so they can get on their feet financially, but their families sometimes have other plans.
This young person’s family wanted them to keep babysitting their older sister’s kid. Although they wanted to make plans for the future and keep job hunting, the family expected them to dedicate all their time to their niece and nephew. When they confronted the family about it, a huge argument broke out.
The author, u/Flowing_River222, kindly agreed to tell Bored Panda more about their complicated relationship with their sister, and even gave a little update. Read our conversation with them below!
A young person asked their sister to be paid for their babysitting services
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They felt like they didn’t have time to job hunt: “My time and energy matter”
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Many commenters validated the young person’s feelings and advised them to get a job as soon as possible
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When the person confronted their sister, she insulted them with incredibly hurtful words
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The Redditor was ready to help their parents around the house, but not to become a free babysitter
The author tells Bored Panda that when they moved back in with their parents, they tried to establish some boundaries. “First, I told them that even though I live under their roof now, I am still my own adult and I can do what I please (within reason, of course).”
“Second, I told them that I wasn’t going to be there for more then six months. I’ve only been living with them for four, so, I said that if they needed any sort of compensation for me living with them just to wait until I find a job and then I would start paying back whatever they believed I owed them.”
u/Flowing_River222 tells us they are expected to help around the house. “I do the dishes daily, and I ALWAYS make sure that they know if they need help with anything to just let me know,” the Redditor clarifies.
However, that was a promise the author made to their parents, not the sister. That’s why they feel it’s not fair that they’re being asked to help out with childcare so much. “[She] thinks that since I’m at home and ‘Don’t have anything better to do’ that she can just drop her kids off whenever she pleased.”
“She hangs out with [friends] and goes clubbing so often,” the Redditor says about their sister
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Every mother needs time off, but the Redditor is concerned about how often the sister uses them for babysitting. “Before I posted, she was dropping them off almost every day. And when I say every day, I mean almost every day. The reason why she was dropping them off every day was because she has many friends, which I’m happy that she does.”
“But she hangs out with them and goes clubbing so often that I’m worried about her, because there have been multiple times when I have tried to contact her when she’s out about her kids and she RARELY answered neither calls/texts.”
The Redditor also worries because the sister would leave her kids with her parents for long periods of time. According to u/Flowing_River222, the niece and nephew once stayed at their grandparents’ for a week. And the mom dropped them off “without any notice beforehand.”
It didn’t take long for the sister to start relying on u/Flowing_River222 for babysitting regularly. The Redditor tells Bored Panda that the mom started dropping off her kids at her parents’ house for the sibling to babysit about two weeks after they moved back in.
“At first she would come over with her kids so I could spend time with them, but then it suddenly would transform into whole days (many times multiple days). Again, without any sort of notice,” the author emphasizes.
The only way the author would be able to forgive their sister is if she sincerely apologized
The Redditor does have a positive update: they have been accepted for the remote admin position they wrote about in their last post. “I just had my first day [last week] and it’s actually going really well so far. I hope that I can work my way up in the ranks and keep on the up and up.”
u/Flowing_River222 hopes that, despite this conflict, they can keep a good relationship with their parents. “They have always been there for me when I needed them. Sure, do they mess up and say the wrong things sometimes? Yes. But they always try to work on themselves because they are really big on growth and listening on what people have to say.”
When it comes to the sister, the Redditor is hesitant. The most important condition for further contact would be an apology. “I am sure that I don’t want to reach out to her until she apologizes to me because what she said was cruel and hurtful,” the author says.
u/Flowing_River222 also shares they’ve struggled with mental health during their teenage years and even had to be hospitalized for it. That’s why the sister’s words during the argument hurt them so much.
“My sister knows what to say to hurt me. And what she said hurt me in a way I don’t know how to forgive,” the Redditor is honest. “I don’t want to talk to her (at all if I can) until she reaches out and apologizes to me.”
“Your parents wanted you home for your sister’s convenience,” people pointed out after reading about the fight
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