Guy Sacrifices A Wedding Party Only To Watch Pregnant Wife Fall Asleep, Drama Ensues

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Pregnancy can be both a magical and a challenging time at once, so it’s no surprise that a soon-to-be-mom might need a helping hand or someone there for her when things get tough.

For this 7-months-pregnant redditor, things got uncomfortable during a friend’s wedding. She asked her husband to leave early and stay with her in case she needed him; and he did. But the situation eventually left the dad-to-be sour and the mom—asking if she was a [jerk] for making him leave the wedding.

In order to understand both sides better, Bored Panda got in touch with the Associate Professor of Anthropology and the Director of the Hormones, Health, and Human Behavior Laboratory at University of Notre Dame, Lee T. Gettler, who was kind enough to answer a few of our questions. You will find his thoughts in the text below.

As fun as they are, weddings can be quite difficult to sit through for some people

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This pregnant woman didn’t feel well while at a wedding so she asked her husband to leave early with her

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Partner support is crucial for the well-being of both people in a couple

Members of the AITA community shared varying opinions regarding the story; while some sided with the soon-to-be-mother saying that her needs come before anything else, others weren’t so quick to judge the husband who was seeking socialization. Such situations can be quite difficult to navigate as—even if not to the same extent—they affect the well-being of both of the involved parties.

“Changes in parents’ friendships and social support networks can contribute to poorer mental health and less resilience to the stressors and demands that can come with parenting,” Lee T. Gettler told Bored Panda, emphasizing the way a lack of socialization can affect a parent.

However, “partner support and the relationship quality between partners are also critical to their well-being; and the acute needs of the mother in the 7th month of pregnancy are a clear priority, whereas perhaps the husband’s need for socializing outside of his family duties could be addressed another time,” he added. At the end of the day, it all boils down to priorities, which was likely why the OP’s husband decided to leave the wedding with his pregnant wife and stay by her side.

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Socializing might not be parents’ number one priority, but it shouldn’t be the last on the list either

Even though there might be other things higher on the priority list when a baby is on the way, a parent’s social needs shouldn’t be at the very bottom either. “Adults’ social networks often change when they become new parents. Time spent with friends can go down, which isn’t surprising given the demands of caring for babies and young children. But friendships and social support are very important to one’s well-being,” Gettler suggested.

“They help shape people’s happiness and satisfaction and can be a buffer against stress,” he explained and added that, since the new parents’ social worlds can narrow quite significantly, it is common for moms and dads to desire time to socialize with friends outside of the ‘baby world’.

Lee T. Gettler revealed that as a parent himself—a dad to a 7 and a 9 year old—he empathizes with how difficult it is to find the time, energy, and resources (costs to cover babysitting, for example) to maintain relationships with friends. “It is hard sometimes to even find the mental energy (or just to remember) to do other small things to stay in touch, like routinely texting or chatting on the phone,” he said.

That’s why, according to the expert, it’s crucial for partners to work as a team. “In two-parent families, I think it is important that partners try to support opportunities for the other to go out with friends and hopefully strike a balance where both parents can enjoy some occasional child-free socializing. It is meaningful to adults’ mental health and stress management, which means it is also relevant to the overall family well-being.”