A home constantly full of chatter, a car with a child seat or two, coloring books and legos next to your magazines and knick-knacks, and a little human—or a couple—calling your name after having just awoken from a nap. For some people, hoping to one day become parents, such a scenario sounds like something they would love to have in life. Now read the same sentence from a perspective of someone who wouldn’t.
For many, people’s desire to have children is baffling, at best. They don’t see the charm in the perpetually increased levels of noise (except for the brief periods when the little hellraiser(s) is sleeping), toys scattered haphazardly around, and someone being at your side nearly constantly.
But these are only some of the more lightweight reasons not to have children. Members of the ‘Ask Reddit’ community opened up about what stops them from having kids, covering such things as financial burdens and the huge mental load, among other things, which shows that one has to be 110% sure before bringing anyone into this world. Scroll down to find their reasoning on the list below and see why some people don’t see themselves becoming parents.
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#1
I’d rather regret not having kids, than to regret having kids.
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#2
In this economy? You have your question backwards. It should be “people who want kids, why.”
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#3
Why would I want kids? Personally, I can’t think of a single compelling reason to have them. Kids deserve a parent who wants them, not someone who just tolerates them.
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#4
There are too many reasons to list, but the biggest is probably just that it seems cruel to me to willingly raise someone in this world.
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#5
It’s not the only reason, but one fear I’ve had is a special needs kid that would require constant care for the rest of my life.
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#6
I struggle with anxiety and anger issues and I wouldn’t want to pass that on to my child or have them have to grow up dealing with my anxieties and anger episodes. I just couldn’t do it and it wouldn’t be fair to them. Plus it’s real expensive. I’d rather have a life of peace and quiet and travel to figure myself out. To the moms: you guys are tough saints.
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#7
Look, I love kids. I WORK with kids. But at the end of the day I return home, to a childfree environment, where I can relax and not worry about mysterious sticky spots or stepping on Legos. I mean, I can imagine being a parent during the fun and cute moments. But I know those are few and far between.
Basically, there’s no way I’d bring a child into this world unless I was fully committed to raising and loving them. And I’m not, so I won’t.
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#8
I can barely take care of myself as it is.
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#9
I’m a mom. I love my little rugrat. I can still give you 100 reasons why you shouldn’t have kids.
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#10
Having a kid now is like having an exotic pet. You have to be really rich and kind of crazy.
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#11
I have 2 under the age of 2 and I’m regretting it so much. I’ve never really liked kids but wanted to experience being a mother and I thought I would definitely love my own and i really do…. but it’s incredibly draining and overwhelming. I’ve never been so miserable.
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#12
I grew up with a brother 10 years younger than i am. Went from changing his diapers to teaching him how to mod minecraft.
Left to goto college. I call him nearly every night, and we still watch anime an play video games together theough discord calls.
I already had my kid. Hes called my little brother. Just wish i understood my familys financial situation sooner.
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#13
Myself (f31) and fiance (m33) have been together 12 years, no kids. Within past few years we’ve both finally got jobs we’ve been working towards and a nice income. We like our life, being able to go away for a night or two or out for nice meals as we can afford it. Then have quiet evenings watching Netflix. Neither of us want a child enough to actually have one. We talk about it frequently to check we’re on the same page. Working well for us.
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#14
1) I don’t like children, can’t relate to children, and feel uncomfortable around children.
2) I can’t justify birthing my own child when there are so many foster children without homes.
3) I can’t justify having a child at all with the lack of finances I have.
4) It would ruin my life to have a child, it would halt all the plans I have for my future. I could never bring a child into this world that I would resent for ruining my life. It’s not fair to the child or to me.
#15
I enjoy freedom, I enjoy my relationship exactly as it is, I have a major fear of being pregnant, I like having money. Oh and I don’t like babies or kids. The reasons are endless.
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#16
I really love my wife, but she’d be a terrible parent. She’s lazy, unreliable, and irresponsible. We’re now in our mid 30s, and have been married for 10 years. I grew up, but she didn’t.
And yet, I love her more than I want kids. But I’ve been putting off telling her how i feel regarding kids for a while, but she recently brought up having kids again, and now I’m going to need to face it.
I have communicated most of my issues to her, just never in the context of having kids (or not having them, I guess). Nothing changes, just more excuses.
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#17
Kids are a lifelong commitment to raise and care for another human, and I don’t think I’m capable of handling that. I like kids, but I don’t think I could raise one well, so I’m not going to try.
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#18
Don’t make enough money to support them and me among other reasons.
#19
Because it’s a lifetime commitment to taking care of another human being, when I don’t have to.
#20
I realized while babysitting when I was younger that I don’t find the daily tasks that excellent parenting requires to be interesting or satisfying.
#21
I have three kids and no money. Why can’t I have no kids and three money?
#22
Not only have I lost the desire thanks to retail, but also I just always felt that kids make a wedge between couples. They end up dedicating everything to the children and fail to give each other at least 25% of their attention. That can either seriously harm or even destroy a relationship.
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