Holding on to grudges can be detrimental to your health. And being able to forgive and forget someone’s wrongs is a virtue. However, that’s far easier said than done. In truth, some people’s behavior is so deeply hurtful and immoral that it’s hard to even consider pardoning them.

User u/Nixieisnothere sparked a brutally honest conversation on r/AskReddit after asking everyone to share the very worst things people have done to them that they would never forgive them for. We’ve collected some of their most candid stories to share with you. Scroll down to read them and possibly lose a bit of your faith in humanity.

A note of warning: many of these stories deal with sensitive topics like infidelity, loss, gaslighting, betrayal, etc.

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#1

My first husband and my best friend cheated on me. We divorced, they married. It lasted 2 years. He wanted me back. Just no. 

I’m well rid of both of them, but I’m not planning to forgive the way they treated me. 

That was 40 years ago. He got in touch with me again about 4 years ago, wanting to be “friends again” ….. I have a really long memory. No. .

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#2

My aunt poisoned and killed my puppy a few months ago to spite me. I will never forgive her for that.

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#3

My mother came to the hospital specifically to tell me that my baby ( who was in the nicu) was going to die and that would be my punishment from God for marrying ( insert racial slur).

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#4

I made friend in HS in my very first semester. We got really close n I was so thankful to have somebody to hang out with because most of the kids were pretty awful to me being the only deaf student who also wore hearing aids I got ridiculed pretty bad. He was kind of a loner too so we really provided good friendship to each other. Well eventually he did meet some other kids who didn’t like me then he started to ignore me. I still remember the day I realized he was just completely turning on me when he wouldn’t allow me to walk beside him anymore. So after that day we were officially not friends and I went back to having no one. I won’t forgive him for doing that to me because in some ways it was even worst than what the bullies did.

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#5

My teachers from my primary school… I had scruffy clothes (sometimes summer dresses in the middle of winter and no gloves or warm coat), no food for lunch, insect bites all over my legs, usually sat in the corner of the playground with a coat over my head to avoid people, and struggled in class. They must have known things weren’t right at home, but they treated me like the weird kid and either targeted me or ignored me. I hope I see them at some point to give them a piece of my mind!

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#6

My best friend and I went into business and for the first two years it was all above board.
Then she started to change, got greedy and was taking money out of places she shouldn’t.
Hired her daughter who honestly, was the most entitled person I have ever met.

I didn’t see it for so long but I was doing 90% of the work and they were living the dream. I rarely took a wage!

I knew I had to leave when she started talking about how we can legally rip people off. I left the company (legally) and left her everything I had worked for for two years.

She got worse after I left. Ripped heaps of people off. Taken to court and forced into liquidation. She tried to tell people it was because I ran off with the money yet I left without a cent.

She has since been in the news and exposed for what she is .

I left that business/friendship feeling like I was leaving an abusive relationship. She had stolen my self confidence little by little over time that I barely even knew who I was anymore.

If you had met me before you would have called me strong and assertive. Afterwards I second guessed myself all the time.

It has been two years now. I am in a much better place and so glad I got out as I have no doubt she was just keeping me along to make me take the fall.

Her arrogance is something else. Thank goodness for excellent book keeping on my part!

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#7

My ex husband abducted our children. I haven’t seen them for fours years. I don’t care if he rots away in jail. I don’t care that he probably has PPD. It’s unforgivable.

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#8

My brother, for locking all our pets in my parents bedroom, lighting it on fire, and walking next door to the neighbors to call 911.

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#9

Not me, but before I met my wife she found out she had cancer at 25 and there were so many people in her life who just abandoned her. She was living alone and had very few people to lean on as her father was already deceased. It was pretty much her and her mom and that was it. Her boyfriend broke up with her because “he couldn’t watch her die,” her best friend cut her off because it was “too depressing,” and several family members (including her only sister) all basically told her some variation of “well, I guess it was nice knowing you.”

Her relationship with her mom became much stronger and one of her friends really stepped up, but in the 10+ years since it has been difficult to watch her struggle still with the impact that diagnosis had on her life. She and her sister had made up a while ago and it’s like nothing happened, but there are family members who we see but she just doesn’t trust or think highly of anymore. And only recently did she just reconnect with that best friend, and only because the friend’s husband finally got her to apologize 10 years later. But yeah, my wife’s life is completely different than what she expected it would be when she was diagnosed. She’s been in remission forever now, we have beautiful kids, we have a house, she has a great career… But it really showed the true colors of a lot of people in her life, and only having met her a couple years after she finished treatment I was there for a lot of the blowback still. I think dealing with a friend or family member who is dying of cancer is very hard and a part of her has forgiven those people who abandoned her, but the damage is still there. She still struggles with it. It’s sad.

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#10

My exs girlfriend at the time who he cheated on me with and got pregnant, msgd me and said “it’s not my fault my son lived and yours died”
I’ll never forget that ever.

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#11

My best friend repeatedly told me what my ex was up to. Even to the point where he got married. I constantly told her to stop. And she didn’t. I felt like she was trying to make me depressed, one day I spiraled with information she shared with me and after I “mentally came back”…(I was literally out of work for a few days) ….I ended our 25 yr long “friendship”.

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#12

At my first dental job I was pregnant and excited (was 21 at the time) I ended up miscarrying and the (older man) dentist said “oh well that’s great news a baby would have ruined your life, now you can focus on omyour career here” I quit that week.

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#13

My mum breaking her back to support and help everyone in our family and extended family. Only to have everyone complain about how hard her terminal cancer diagnosis was for them and how she didn’t understand what they were going through.

I’ve cut so many people out and can’t seem to trust people or let them in anymore. I’m so much quieter and reserved now. All I do is work and stay at home.

Edit: Just wanted to write that it’s a shame so many people have this same experience. It’s definitely easier once you cut people out. Thanks, everyone, for being so nice. I will work on being more sociable again.

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#14

Abruptly broke up with me while pregnant through text as I was hemorrhaging in the hospital after 7 months of trying to get pregnant. There wasn’t even fighting or an explanation provided. I can only assume he’s off with someone else as I prepare for divorce with a toddler and due any day.

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#15

I once had a friend who stole a significant amount of money from me during a tough time. I trusted them deeply, and their betrayal was devastating. It’s hard to forgive something like that because it shatters your trust and makes you question your judgment.

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#16

My best friend ghosted me. 

Yeah, I know that friendships will run a course and sometimes fall by the wayside. 

I was there for her when her mom had pancreatic cancer, I was there for her when her dad’s dementia took a turn for the worst, and I was there for her when her brother developed kidney cancer that metastasized.

 Where was she when my dad started failing? And my mom? I have no idea. She stopped answering my calls, texts, and emails. We were friends for over 20 years. .

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#17

My ex-partner revealed a very personal secret of mine to his friends after our breakup. That violation of trust was devastating and made me realize that some people don’t deserve second chances :/.

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#18

My best friend, the maid of honor at my wedding, fooled around with my husband at my parents house at the after party on our wedding night.

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#19

My brother was sleeping with my ex-wife. When she said no more, he tried to get my kids taken into care out of spite.
I haven’t spoken to him since 1995.

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#20

Emotional neglect from parents. I have been able to move on and have a relationship with them but childhood trauma goes deep.

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#21

My mother had dementia, but was still having moments of clarity at that point. During one of those moments my brother persuaded her to alter her will to leave everything – *everything* – to him. I didn’t care about my share so much, but he took the inheritance from my children, her only grandchildren.

We’ve been nc for years. I miss the brother I used to have. I don’t miss who he became.

Edited to add – I really appreciate all the comments on this thread. I’m sorry so many of you had been/are going through through the same wringer, but it’s strangely reassuring to know we’re not alone. We had our reasons for not attempting to contest it, but I’m glad to hear about the successes!

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#22

My brother sudddenly stopped paying the remaining money i loaned him for a custody battle. Im now stuck with paying another 10k loan.

Do a good thing to get your sibling their child, ask to be repaid the remaining and get shafted off and suddenly not get paid anymore, no communication for months and told their family comes first…..that you helped them get….🙃.

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#23

Narcissists. They are people who get angry for no good reason other than they can’t manipulate others. Anyone who is that petty and spiteful is not someone who has a kind heart and is completely self focused. It’s hard to forgive someone like that who wreaks havoc on other people’s peace of mind and compassion with no remorse.

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#24

My parents neglecting my dental care as a child/ teen. So much money and stress I have to put into it now to catch up.

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