The fastest way to someone’s heart can often be through their stomach. Sharing a delicious, romantic dinner is a wonderful way to bond with your partner, and nothing can melt my heart faster than a tray of warm, freshly baked brownies.
But as much as we all love food, it can be an emotional topic as well. And it can quickly become a source of tension between couples. One woman reached out to Reddit detailing an argument she recently had with her husband over the lunch that he wasted. Below, you’ll find the full story, as well as some of the replies invested readers shared.
Food can be a beautiful tool for bringing couples together or a spark for arguments that tear them apart
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When this woman realized her husband threw away the lunch she had been saving, she couldn’t hold her frustration back
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Later, the woman provided more background information about the situation and her marriage
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The average couple argues about food a few times a week
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We all know the cliche of couples fighting about what to have for dinner. A husband might ask his wife what she wants, and she’ll respond that she doesn’t care. So he starts suggesting options, and she shuts them all down until they explode into an argument fueled by “hanger” and impatience and end up skipping dinner altogether.
Unfortunately, it is common for tension to arise between couples when they discuss food. According to a 2020 survey, the average couple will argue over what to get for dinner 156 times a year, or about 3 times a week. Typically, it takes couples around 17 minutes to discuss and decide on what to eat, but 16% of people admit that they can debate for over 30 minutes about dinner.
Food is so important to us that 40% of people say they have to have “food compatibility” with their partner, or the relationship will never work. And when it comes to ordering food, deciding on the place isn’t the only hurdle. Couples also report that they struggle agreeing on what items to order, who will go pick it up, how much food they should order and whether or not they’ll be sharing.
But apparently, it’s not common for couples to perfectly see eye to eye when it comes to dining. 59% of people admit that they aren’t a fan of some of their partner’s favorite places to eat, and 37% aren’t interested in the menu of their partner’s favorite restaurant.
Meanwhile, a quarter view their significant other’s favorite place as too spicy or not healthy enough, and over half of couples have a “compromise spot” that they’ll go to if they can’t agree on anything else.
It’s important for spouses to respect each other’s boundaries, especially if they’ve been discussed multiple times
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In this particular story, however, the couple doesn’t seem to only be arguing about the food itself. The woman noted that it’s been an ongoing issue in their marriage for her husband to devour food before she can get to it, and it sounds like this is far from the first time they’ve discussed this problem.
According to PsychCentral, some of the telltale signs that someone isn’t respecting your boundaries are having to set boundaries over and over again, refusing to change their behavior after you’ve expressed discomfort, not listening to or acknowledging you, minimizing or mocking your requests or pressuring you to accept their behavior.
Perhaps the woman in this story is frustrated by the fact that her husband’s behavior never seems to change, no matter how many times she complains about him eating her food. So what’s the best way to deal with someone who keeps stepping over boundaries? PsychCentral suggests starting with open and direct communication.
You may need to be open to compromising and negotiating with the other person, but that doesn’t mean you should let them steamroll you. Detail the changes in their behavior you’d like to see, and hold them accountable if they don’t keep up their end of the bargain.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Do you think this woman was right to be upset about her husband snagging and throwing away her lunch? Feel free to weigh in. Then, you can find another Bored Panda article discussing similar relationship issues right here.
Many readers took the woman’s side and agreed that her husband was inconsiderate
One even shared that she has a similar arrangement in her household
However, some readers found the woman’s reaction to be extreme, and others wondered why the couple doesn’t share food
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