Having a bit of privacy in your own home isn’t a sin. We all need some time alone, whether with our thoughts, our hobbies, or simply to lay in a hot bath. The last thing we want is to feel like we’re cramped or unwelcome in our very own homes. Some guests—whether family or friend—outstay their welcome and subtle hints don’t always work.
One redditor shared how her husband’s family members kept coming over on a regular basis once the lockdowns were over. She felt like she barely had any time (or room!) to herself and was stuck in a constant loop of cooking and cleaning up after her guests. Eventually, she had enough and took a big step to control the situation: she converted one of the bedrooms into her very own office/game room. That meant that not all of her in-laws would be able to stay over from now on and would have to get a room at a hotel. However, the woman’s husband thought that it was a jerk move to do.
Scroll down for the full story, in the OP’s own words, and also have a read about how the AITA community reacted to the family situation. What do you think about what happened, Pandas? What would you have done? Do you think the author of the post did anything wrong? Share your thoughts in the comments.
It’s not a crime to want some peace and quiet in your own home. Unfortunately, that’s not always possible
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A woman shared how she tried to solve the issue of her in-laws constantly overstaying their welcome at her house
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The OP added some more info about the situation in a couple of edits
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The OP felt that she was very much within her right to have her very own office. She works from home. She needs a space for herself where it’s quiet. And she got the house from her parents, so it’s her property now. The vast majority of the AITA crowd thought that the woman did nothing wrong.
In a couple of edits to her story, the redditor explained just how many people are constantly staying over at her place. She also noted that her husband was very much aware of the fact that she was planning on converting one of the bedrooms into her own office. So the communication was clearly there. That didn’t stop the husband from getting mad at his wife for setting boundaries and wanting a bit of peace and quiet in her own home.
Previously, Bored Panda spoke about subtly and not-so-subtly asking guests to leave when they overstay their welcome with Jessica Leigh Clark-Bojin, a world-famous pie artist who knows a lot about hosting dinner parties.
“There are any number of unforgivable dinner guest faux-pas, everything from a guest refusing to take off their stiletto heels on your new softwood floors, or bringing extra guests or kids to a dinner party when they were not invited (no, just no), to refusing to try anything served to them, or haranguing others about their diet choices,” she told us.
“But perhaps the most egregious is the guest who, perhaps after imbibing a few adult beverages too many, refuses to take the hint and hit the road after everyone else has left.”
Jessica shared with us that she’s a fan of the direct approach, like saying, “YAWN! Well, I’m beat. Great party! Can I call you a cab?’”
“Or if that is still too subtle, you can always end with the Seinfeld classic, ‘You must go now,’” she shared a couple of ways how to let your guests know that you’d prefer them to leave your little abode now.
“If you know you have guests coming over that are prone to this sort of annoying welcome-outstaying, you may want to lay the groundwork in advance by including a start and end time for the dinner party in your invitation (with a bit of humor),” the expert on hosting said that you could do something like this: “‘Appetizers and drinks at 7pm, dinner served at 8pm, dessert at 9pm, followed by ‘you all get the heck out of my house’ at 10pm.’” However, this only works if your guests have a good sense of humor.
The woman also shared some additional context in the comments of her viral post
Here’s how some members of the AITA community reacted to the OP’s story
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