Your kids are going to grow up at some point, whether you like it or not. We’ve heard of some dads struggling with the thought of their baby girls becoming young women. There are those who internalize it and others who go completely nuts in an attempt to keep their daughters under lock and key.
One man went off the rails in a fit of rage when he found out his eldest daughter had started dating – much to the horror of his wife. In a bid to protect their younger daughter, the mom has been keeping a massive secret. She’s even admitted to helping the 16-year-old sneak boys in and out of the house. But things fell apart when the dad saw his young daughter kissing a guy at the mall.
Her husband went into a fit of rage when their eldest daughter started dating
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She vowed it wouldn’t happen with the younger daughter, so she’s been helping her sneak boys into the house
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How overly-strict parenting can negatively impact your children
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There’s no handbook on how to parent properly, and everyone has their own style. From those who prefer the more progressive, gentle or permissive route, to others who swear by a very strict approach. But experts warn that being too strict can have a negative impact on your child’s development.
The Parents App site describes strict parents s those who typically set themselves up as authority figures, and often expect their children to obey other authority figures as well, such as teachers or the police.
“Children are expected to follow rigid rules, often without an explanation as to why those rules are needed,” the site explains. “High expectations are also common. A strict parent, for example, may be quick to ground a kid if even one grade drops below an A.”
The app’s experts warn that an excessively strict parenting style can interfere with your child’s self-determination and development of autonomy.
It might, ironically, lead to lower grades. “Paradoxically, having high expectations for your child’s grades can actually lower their performance,” they say. “Some children will also react to being punished for not getting straight As when they worked hard by working less hard because they feel they can’t make a difference.”
Your child may also suffer from low self-esteem as a result of your overly strict parenting. This could be because they don’t socialize as much as those with more laid-back parents.
“Kids with strict parents are often denied certain activities with other children, and this impacts their ability to make friends,” explains the Parents App site. “A child who is never allowed to go to another child’s home, but always has to have kids come to their place may be resented by other children (and even parents) and left out.”
Kids with insanely strict parents may also find it hard to make decisions. That’s because they’re used to mom or dad calling the shots for them. They don’t really learn how to make choices in a healthy way.
Your strict parenting could also backfire on you. Experts say children with authoritarian parents tend to rebel at some point.
“As kids get older, they react to parents who are strict by working around them, not with them. They are more likely to sneak out and get into trouble than kids raised by softer parents. They learn to conceal the things they are doing,” explains the site, adding that the rebellious phase doesn’t always end anytime soon.
“In adulthood they may also rebel against other authority figures, making it harder to hold down a job or even getting them into trouble with the law,” warn the experts.
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